What if sexual validation comes from within?

The day I realized 95% of my sexual distress, pain, and shame has been the result of other people telling me what my sexual experiences should look like and feel like, everything shifted. I can’t tell you how many hours (years?) I spent worrying about how my boobs looked or my tummy moved during sex instead of surrendering to the …

ex Gets Real 119: Fetish wrestling, sex work, & fisting

Have you taken the poll on dawnserra.com yet telling me where in the world you are? I want to take this show on the road, but first, I need to know where you are! This week’s chat is one of my favorites. Andre Shakti is an absolute delight. The first time I saw her in person at Sex Down South …

Sex Gets Real 118: Pole dancing & burlesque

Body positivity is something I constantly bring up on the show – not only because it’s an important part of my own story, but because I’m constantly getting questions from listeners about their own body shame and struggles. That’s why I am so excited by this unapologetic and energizing look into pole dancing and burlesque with Kaila Prins. Not only …

Sex Gets Real 117: Coming out & sacred intimacy

A listener question sent me on a quest to find some folks who could share their coming out stories, specifically cis men, and that quest led me to TT Baum. Several colleagues had the most amazing things to say about him, and when we finally connected, I adored his calm energy and beautiful openness. This episode has so many tender …

Sex Gets Real 116: Orgasmquest

Trigger warning: talk of suicide From the early days of queer porn to managing sex positive feminist shops to getting internet famous for her epic orgasm quest, Crista Anne – the rainbowiest of rainbow people – joins the show this week. One of the things I’ve admired about Crista Anne for so long is her fierce, unapologetic approach to sharing …

What are you prioritizing in love?

Relationships are not complicated. They take practice. They take prioritization. They take choosing to show up in love, even when it’s awkward.

Sex Gets Real 115: Lube & STI master class

Are you ready for a mastery level version of Sex Gets Real? Good. Because this week, Sarah Mueller from Smitten Kitten joins the show to share her research on lube, as well as her findings around herpes and STIs. Did you know some lubes (like KY) actually INCREASE the likelihood of STI transmission because the lube damages your genital tissue? …

Sex Gets Real 114: Moving beyond sex positivity

JoEllen Notte is a sex educator powerhouse – she is revolutionizing the discussion about sex and depression, and also has a beautiful blog all about sex positivity, sex toys, and introversion. She recently reached out to me and asked if she could come on the show to talk about sex positivity versus sex performativity. Or, as we discuss in this …

Sex Gets Real 113: Erotic porn, fat sex, & problematic orgasms

If you’re listening to this on June 12th, 2016, you still have time to enter the celebration giveaway! The winner gets an njoy 11 worth $310. Check out the details here. Giveaway closes at 11:30pm ET in the U.S. 6/12/2016. Oh, and be sure to pop over to Kickstarter to check out the new sex game Weapons of Mass Seduction. …

Sex Gets Real 112: Salad tossing and vegan BDSM

DID YOU HEAR THE NEWS? The podcast hit half a million downloads last week. So, as a great big thank you, I’m hosting a giveaway and the winner gets an njoy 11 worth $310. Check out the details here. Enter before June 12th! Also, because it was such a huge week, I wanted to spend a little quality time with …