Where does our deepest healing happen?
Where do we do our deepest healing? How do we cultivate relationships that allow us to be messy? Why are relationships the key to our healing?
You are not lazy. Laziness is a myth.
What if laziness is a myth? What if you aren’t lazy? Rest is how we heal. Slowing down is how we listen to our bodies. Let’s break up with lazy.
Love is fierce. Love is strength. Love is anger.
Love is a phrase that gets thrown around a lot. We use it to tell someone how we feel about them and to indicate we deeply enjoy an experience. We say that only love can heal, that all we need is love*, and we believe that certain kinds of love are more desirable or superior to others (say, valuing romantic …
Sex Gets Real 181: Erotic art and photography with Maggie West
An updated Patreon you say? Why yes. Yes it is. Check out the sweet new rewards. For the past few months, one of my favorite things on Instagram has been Maggie West’s gorgeous nude photo series for Amber Rose’s Slut Walk. The colors, the confidence, the variety of bodies. So, of course, I had to invite her on because her …
Sex Gets Real 180: Fisting, platonic kink, sex labs & more with Bex Caputo
An updated Patreon you say? Why yes. Yes it is. Check out the sweet new rewards (that I can actually deliver). What happens when two sex educators get together and geek out? You get this spanking new episode featuring Bex Caputo from the Dildorks podcast. If ever there was an episode that covered all the things, it’s this one. We …
Sex Gets Real 178: Yes, I have herpes with Dr. Sheila Loanzon
What happens when you get a herpes diagnosis? And more importantly, what happens if you begin hiding that you have herpes? Dr. Sheila Loanzon, an OBGYN who gives amazing PAP smears, is here to talk about her very personal story and new book, “Yes, I Have Herpes.” From advice on how to deal to details about what herpes really is, …
Sex Gets Real 177: Thriving in sex work with Lola Davina
How can you thrive as a sex worker, navigating the fact that you have no real safety while also performing erotic fantasies and sex at the same time? How can you care for yourself as clients bring in their pain, shame, and fear and expect you to heal them? Lola Davina is here to help us answer those questions and …
Sex Gets Real 176: Christopher Zeischegg (Danny Wylde) on writing, monogamy, the future of porn
Guess what? Christopher Zeischegg is here this week. You may know him as porn performer Danny Wylde. I had a chance to read his book, “The Wolves that Live in Skin and Space,” and we talk all about his writing, the horror genre, leaving porn, bi-phobia within the porn world, why he’s grateful to be in a monogamous relationship, how …
Sex Gets Real 174: The Sex Myth with Rachel Hills and Jennie Runk
I wanted to open this week’s episode with a note about racism and white supremacy in light of the Charlottesville crap that’s recently unfolded. I mentioned a bunch of places where you can donate money to help fight racism and support the folks on the ground doing the work. Find them here and here. On to this week’s episode… …
Sex Gets Real 173: Riley J Dennis on trans identity and sex, YouTube culture, & porn
Riley J Dennis is someone I’ve been watching on YouTube for a little while and completely admiring. I adore her passion for anti-oppressive work, talking about feminism, politics, sex, trans issues, and a bunch more. So, I decided to reach out and invite her on the show. When she said yes, I immediately went to work watching as many of …