This is a story about healing
Sometimes healing trauma can take us amazing and unexpected places. What happened when I saw a sacred intimate (somatic sex educator) for healing work.
Sometimes healing trauma can take us amazing and unexpected places. What happened when I saw a sacred intimate (somatic sex educator) for healing work.
I can remember lying in bed at night wondering if something was wrong with me. I had no desire to have sex with my partner at the time, and while the sex was OK when we did have it, it was largely non-existent. In fact, we fought about it quite a lot. I felt sad, frustrated, and even a little …
Have you ever had that moment when someone asks you to talk dirty to them and you freeze? Suddenly, you’re stuck in your head and you aren’t quite sure what to say or how to say it? “Should I say ‘boobs’ or ‘tits’? Am I demanding or am I begging? Do they want me to be raunchy or am I …
It’s confession time again. In my two previous relationships, I was a master microaggressor. I didn’t know it at the time – in fact, I felt quite justified and righteous in how I handled our disagreements and disappointments. I was in the right, after all. Looking back, I see now how damaging those little looks, eye rolls, & tiny sarcastic remarks were …
You know that it’s the first thing to go when things get insane. Between work, managing your home, maintaining a social life, getting food on the table, and running errands, sex just seems like a nice-to-have rather than a must-have when it comes to scheduling your life. It’s a common theme that I see over and over again (the other …
Recently, at the end of a long and powerful session with one of my clients, I made a little joke to her about all of my sex failures. She stopped and looked at me, and then said: “I find that hard to believe. You’re so awesome at…everything.” Um. That couldn’t be farther from the truth, and I said as much. In fact, …
I am a survivor of multiple sexual assaults and rapes. I wasn’t planning on talking about this on the blog just yet, but there’s a reason I share this now. Several months ago I did an interview with a podcast called Ending the Sexual Dark Age. One of their listeners wrote in saying she’d been raped and was asking for …
I don’t know how you feel about your body, but the relationship that I have with my body is deep, complex, and not at all consistent. Over the years, I’ve been quite mean to both my body and myself. In fact, there was a time when I believed myself to be so undesirable that I almost cried when a lover …
I have a confession. It’s personal and involves years of embarrassment on my part, so I hope you’ll be patient with me as my story of self discovery unfolds. From the time I was in my early teens, I loved pleasuring myself. I don’t remember exactly when I made the discovery, but I distinctly remember wishing for time alone at the …
I’ve noticed an epidemic in my life and in the lives of my clients. The more I look and listen, the more I realize it’s everywhere. We’re all suffocating beneath layers of guilt, shame, comparison, and fear all because of three little words. This is especially true when it comes to sex and the way we view our bodies. You may …