Sex Gets Real 199: Being a survivor & the ethics of sex toys with Sarah Holliday

Formidable Femme, aka Sarah B Holliday, is here this week talking about sex toy companies, the ethics of selling sex toys, rejecting the perfect survivor narrative, healing from trauma, plus we field a listener question about abuse. Sarah is deeply committed to changing the way the sex toy industry operates, and she has loads of ideas about what makes for …

Sex Gets Real 198: Long distance BDSM, porn addiction, & abuse in love

Welcome to this week’s episode of listener questions! And Patreon supporters – this week’s bonus is me reading you a little queer erotica. Go listen now! First up, Love All of Him sent an update. Find out what happened after they followed my advice and what lead to themhaving PIV sex for the first time. Leo from Scotland wrote in. He’s …

Sex Gets Real 197: Cavanaugh Quick dives into awkwardness, body language, being a switch, & consent

Talking to other sex educators, researchers, and experts is one of my favorite things in life, especially when the conversations are rich, personal, nuanced, and challenging. I met Cavanaugh Quick through O.School (where we both live stream sex ed for free), and the first time I saw Cavanaugh talk about feminist porn, I knew I wanted to have them on …

Sex Gets Real 196: Luna Matatas on seducing the anus, strap-ons, & sex clubs

What do butt play, pegging the patriarchy, non-sexual Dominance & submission, strap-ons, and sex clubs have in common? Why, Luna Matatas, of course. She is joining me this week to talk about all the delicious, yumminess that is kink and pleasure. As a fellow O.School Pleasure Professional (check out her Fuck Like a Goddess weekly live stream), she loves talking …

Sex Gets Real 195: Former pro dominatrix Mona Darling on kink, pet play, & orgasm control

Mona Darling is here to talk all things kinky. As a former pro Dominatrix with over 20 years of experience dominating folks in the kinkiest of ways, she has some fantastic advice on how to get started in kink, the skills most people overlook that actually make kink juicy and meaningful, and how to find your inner Domme if you’re …

Sex Gets Real 194: Mono, wanting lots of sex, OK Cupid name change

Happy New Year! This is dropping on New Year’s Eve 2017, so let’s shuffle 2018 in in style. I got myself a gift of a new vibrator. I’ll be reporting back with my thoughts over on Patreon for supporters there. You can support the show, too! On to listener questions! A listener wrote in saying her hottest fantasy is having …

Sex Gets Real 193: JoEllen Notte on the best of 2017

If you’re looking for a last minute holiday gift or you want to start your 2018 with a bang, don’t forget you can grab my online on-demand workshops now! From porn to anal, from games to relationship charters, you’ll find all sorts of fun, inviting goodies to help you level up. Want to hear my mini round-up of things I …

Sex Gets Real 192: Listener questions on orgasms, being gay, sexting, & therapy

Support the show on Patreon! Also, if you’re looking for a unique holiday gift, check out all of my online workshops and DIY goodies. They can make amazing gifts and they’re all around $5-30 each. Pop over and see what’s available now. And away we go… Brandon wrote in because he used to find it super hot to spy on …

Sex Gets Real 191: Face sitting, cheating, & hating your body

My porn workshop, Hands Down: A Workshop on How Porn Can Heal, Connect, and Be Ethical, is now streaming. Check out the details at dawnserra.com/porn. Let’s talk about the porn! Here’s that funny article I was giggling over called, “20 Things Guys Have Actually Said to Me In Bed.” Now, on to your questions. Brittany wrote in seeking sexy kink …

Sex Gets Real 190: Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg on kink & changing bodies

Did you hear last week? CrashPad Series is sponsoring the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition. It’s free and online, so sign-up today. We’ll spend 5 days going super deep into body politics, self acceptance, fat activism, diet culture, weight stigma, and shedding body shame so we can center our pleasure. To see the line-up for the summit and to enroll, …