Sex Gets Real 122: Porn star & sex work advocate Conner Habib

Conner Habib generously agreed to jump on the phone with me at the last minute for this week’s episode, and our conversation is incredibly political and philosophical in ways you don’t often hear on the show. This is my second time interviewing Conner and both times we’ve chatted, I’ve felt challenged and inspired to think bigger. Strap on your thinking …

Are criticism or sarcasm showing up in love? The balm is kindness.

How kind are you being to yourself? How kind are you being with the people that you love? The answer says an awful lot about your life, your needs, and what isn’t working. Why? Because as soon as kindness takes a hike, it’s time for massive change. Over and over again, this has proven to be true in my own life (and …

Sex Gets Real 121: Erotic humiliation & masterful kink

There is something so delicious in talking about something that I have so little experience with. This week’s chat with Princess Kali is just that – a fun, playful talk about erotic humiliation, objectification, mastering kink, and being a Dominatrix. It’s rich, it’s approachable, and it’s terribly intriguing. Throughout the episode, Princess Kali drops truthbomb after truthbomb. I adore her …

Sex Gets Real 120: Trans fetish, pegging, & being bad in bed

It’s just you and me this week. No guest. No interview. Just your questions and emails and me savoring every single one of them. We’re talking transsexual fetish sex, pegging, exploring sex with a partner who is a rape survivor, what it means to be bad at sex, Hollywood myths about how sex should look, and ALL the ways to …

What if sexual validation comes from within?

The day I realized 95% of my sexual distress, pain, and shame has been the result of other people telling me what my sexual experiences should look like and feel like, everything shifted. I can’t tell you how many hours (years?) I spent worrying about how my boobs looked or my tummy moved during sex instead of surrendering to the …

ex Gets Real 119: Fetish wrestling, sex work, & fisting

Have you taken the poll on dawnserra.com yet telling me where in the world you are? I want to take this show on the road, but first, I need to know where you are! This week’s chat is one of my favorites. Andre Shakti is an absolute delight. The first time I saw her in person at Sex Down South …

Sex Gets Real 118: Pole dancing & burlesque

Body positivity is something I constantly bring up on the show – not only because it’s an important part of my own story, but because I’m constantly getting questions from listeners about their own body shame and struggles. That’s why I am so excited by this unapologetic and energizing look into pole dancing and burlesque with Kaila Prins. Not only …

Sex Gets Real 117: Coming out & sacred intimacy

A listener question sent me on a quest to find some folks who could share their coming out stories, specifically cis men, and that quest led me to TT Baum. Several colleagues had the most amazing things to say about him, and when we finally connected, I adored his calm energy and beautiful openness. This episode has so many tender …

Sex Gets Real 116: Orgasmquest

Trigger warning: talk of suicide From the early days of queer porn to managing sex positive feminist shops to getting internet famous for her epic orgasm quest, Crista Anne – the rainbowiest of rainbow people – joins the show this week. One of the things I’ve admired about Crista Anne for so long is her fierce, unapologetic approach to sharing …