Sex Gets Real 131: Chlamydia, making lube, and Black men who are small

Sign-up for my live, online anal 101 class! It’s October 26th and going to be amazing fun. Learn more and register now. I’m sure you heard on last week’s show, but I’m reminding you again. I want YOUR voice as part of the new podcast intro. All you have you to do is call 747-444-1840 and say “You’re listening to …

Sex Gets Real 130: Setting boundaries & tips for your first sex party

Ready to learn about anal pleasure, anal anatomy, and all the butt stuff? Join me for my online, live workshop, All About Anal. Visit dawnserra.com/butts to learn more and to sign-up. Marcia Baczynski, creator of the Good Girl Recovery Program and co-founder of Cuddle Party, is here this week, and there were SOOO many nuggets of inspiration and amazing suggestions …

Desire and intimacy require constant tending

Have you ever been in a relationship that started hot and heavy, and then as you settled into your routines as a couple it started to taper off and become something a little more mundane and lukewarm? Yeah. Me, too. That’s because most of us are never taught that desire takes constant, on-going attention in order to thrive. It’s like …

Sex Gets Real 129: Living with STIs, becoming a sex educator

This week is a little different from the normal show. First up, I field a few listener questions about finding out you may have herpes and hepatitis C after a partner cheated and how to become a sex educator. NRE isn’t only for relationships – we can also get high on our dreams and take huge risks when we’re caught …

Sex Gets Real 128: Erotica & desire with Rachel Kramer Bussel

Erotica has played a significant role in my own sexual exploration and development – from teaching me about my own desires and fantasies to understanding the depth of other people’s sexual landscapes. It’s a yummy and delicious space to play in. That’s why I’m so excited to be joined by Rachel Kramer Bussel this week, who has edited over 60 …

Sex Gets Real 127: Master, slave, Dominance, submission

Sinclair Sexsmith (you might know them as Sugarbutch) is here this week and we are talking ALL about kink, BDSM, and power dynamics. We take a look at Sinclair’s journey from submissive to Top to Dominant to Daddy and Master. What is it like to live in a 24/7 Master slave dynamic? How can people learn more? We also discuss …

Sex Gets Real 126: Open relationships, touch free orgasms, & Daddy Doms

In the DC area? I’m teaching kink, anal sex, thriving relationships, blowjobs, and more in October and November. Check out the details at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page.  How does traditional consent education fail us? What do you do if you’re in a new open relationship and it just isn’t working for you? Can someone really …

Sometimes it takes a broken heart to find the tenderness you so desperately need.

This is a vulnerable post for me. To be honest, the last thing I wanted to do today was write because it’s a high-feels day. But, then I thought, maybe that’s the perfect time to write. Maybe by letting my pain be a real, valid thing, someone else will feel seen. As easy as it is to tell myself I’m less worthy, …

Sex Gets Real 125: Rejection, rape fantasies, & painting consent violators as evil

In the DC area? Sign up for my workshops at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page. The October “From Curious to Kinky” is now enrolling. Sometimes I get intimidated or nervous about speaking with a guest. Other times I feel excited to dig in with a colleague or friend. But this week? The only word I …