Sex Gets Real 135: Fighting oppression for sexual freedom

What a week. Between moving from DC to Salt Lake City and the U.S. election, I’ve had so many big emotions and huge feels. This week’s episode is a little different. It’s not everyday we have an election and a public response like the one that happened a few days ago. So, instead of a big interview or an hour …

Sex Gets Real 134: Mike Domitrz on dating, hookups, intimacy & consent

One of the perks of my job is getting a chance to read a lot of books about sex, sexuality, kink, and relationships. Some are terrific, some are OK, but it’s always fun to learn new things and take on new perspectives. I recently had a chance to read Mike Domitrz’s new book, “Can I Kiss You?” and one of …

You don’t need to be perfect to be lovable.

You don’t need to be perfect to be lovable. So, please stop striving for perfection. Instead of denying the hurt and the failed expectations, instead of trying to seem like you have it all together, what if you let it all out and showed off the soft, vulnerable parts begging to be recognized? It’s not your fault that awful things happened to …

Sex Gets Real 133: Whores of Yore on sex & porn through the ages

Grab a cup of tea, settle in, and prepare to be amazed. When Kate Lister, creator of Whores of Yore, agreed to come on the show, I did cartwheels. And it’s pretty evident why as you listen to this fascinating and hysterical episode all about the history of sex, porn, and sex work. Kinky Victorians who loved spankings and piss …

There is no short cut for talking about the scary stuff. It’s just scary.

There are some things that I really don’t like talking about with my sweetheart. Things I feel deeply ashamed of or embarrassed by. Things that I think could be the final straw in him choosing something other than our marriage, and so I avoid them as long as I possibly can. It’s unhealthy, unhelpful, and creates distance between us But, …

Sex Gets Real 132: Allison Moon on queer identity and vulvas

Sign-up for my live, online anal 101 class! It’s October 26th and going to be amazing fun. Learn more and register now. When I think about my sex educator heroes, Allison Moon is one of the folks who has had a tremendous impact on the way I approach and talk about sexuality and sex. Her own journey through lesbian identity …

Sex Gets Real 131: Chlamydia, making lube, and Black men who are small

Sign-up for my live, online anal 101 class! It’s October 26th and going to be amazing fun. Learn more and register now. I’m sure you heard on last week’s show, but I’m reminding you again. I want YOUR voice as part of the new podcast intro. All you have you to do is call 747-444-1840 and say “You’re listening to …

Sex Gets Real 130: Setting boundaries & tips for your first sex party

Ready to learn about anal pleasure, anal anatomy, and all the butt stuff? Join me for my online, live workshop, All About Anal. Visit dawnserra.com/butts to learn more and to sign-up. Marcia Baczynski, creator of the Good Girl Recovery Program and co-founder of Cuddle Party, is here this week, and there were SOOO many nuggets of inspiration and amazing suggestions …

Desire and intimacy require constant tending

Have you ever been in a relationship that started hot and heavy, and then as you settled into your routines as a couple it started to taper off and become something a little more mundane and lukewarm? Yeah. Me, too. That’s because most of us are never taught that desire takes constant, on-going attention in order to thrive. It’s like …

Sex Gets Real 129: Living with STIs, becoming a sex educator

This week is a little different from the normal show. First up, I field a few listener questions about finding out you may have herpes and hepatitis C after a partner cheated and how to become a sex educator. NRE isn’t only for relationships – we can also get high on our dreams and take huge risks when we’re caught …