A listener calls us out. Small penises…they’re the butt of many jokes, the catch in many commercials, and even featured on SNL as a reason to kill yourself. So, when a listener writes in to call us out that small penises really are that bad – after all, he’s been broken up with four times specifically for his small dick …
Sometimes healing trauma can take us amazing and unexpected places. What happened when I saw a sacred intimate (somatic sex educator) for healing work.
It’s confession time again. In my two previous relationships, I was a master microaggressor. I didn’t know it at the time – in fact, I felt quite justified and righteous in how I handled our disagreements and disappointments. I was in the right, after all. Looking back, I see now how damaging those little looks, eye rolls, & tiny sarcastic remarks were …
Hi you, This week, I wanted to sit down and write a little love note – from me to you. Maybe it’s because we’re coming out of Mercury in retrograde or because everything seems to be moving so damn fast all the time, but I’m feeling tender this morning, a little raw, a little unsure, and in need of something gentle. I …
Recently, at the end of a long and powerful session with one of my clients, I made a little joke to her about all of my sex failures. She stopped and looked at me, and then said: “I find that hard to believe. You’re so awesome at…everything.” Um. That couldn’t be farther from the truth, and I said as much. In fact, …
I don’t know how you feel about your body, but the relationship that I have with my body is deep, complex, and not at all consistent. Over the years, I’ve been quite mean to both my body and myself. In fact, there was a time when I believed myself to be so undesirable that I almost cried when a lover …
I have a confession. It’s personal and involves years of embarrassment on my part, so I hope you’ll be patient with me as my story of self discovery unfolds. From the time I was in my early teens, I loved pleasuring myself. I don’t remember exactly when I made the discovery, but I distinctly remember wishing for time alone at the …
I’ve noticed an epidemic in my life and in the lives of my clients. The more I look and listen, the more I realize it’s everywhere. We’re all suffocating beneath layers of guilt, shame, comparison, and fear all because of three little words. This is especially true when it comes to sex and the way we view our bodies. You may …
I have a confession to make. I’m scared. I’m scared of the death of the love that I have for my partner. I’m scared of putting myself out into the world and sharing my gifts. I’m scared of failure. I’m scared of a great many things. Sometimes the fear feels like a cold fist curling in my stomach. Other times …