Are you destroying trust and intimacy with these tiny reactions?

It’s confession time again. In my two previous relationships, I was a master microaggressor. I didn’t know it at the time – in fact, I felt quite justified and righteous in how I handled our disagreements and disappointments. I was in the right, after all. Looking back, I see now how damaging those little looks, eye rolls, & tiny sarcastic remarks were …

You don’t need to love your body to have amazing sex

I don’t know how you feel about your body, but the relationship that I have with my body is deep, complex, and not at all consistent. Over the years, I’ve been quite mean to both my body and myself. In fact, there was a time when I believed myself to be so undesirable that I almost cried when a lover …

Are you ready to claim your pleasure and create a better sex life?

I have a confession. It’s personal and involves years of embarrassment on my part, so I hope you’ll be patient with me as my story of self discovery unfolds. From the time I was in my early teens, I loved pleasuring myself. I don’t remember exactly when I made the discovery, but I distinctly remember wishing for time alone at the …

Eliminate these three words to improve your sexual confidence

I’ve noticed an epidemic in my life and in the lives of my clients. The more I look and listen, the more I realize it’s everywhere. We’re all suffocating beneath layers of guilt, shame, comparison, and fear all because of three little words. This is especially true when it comes to sex and the way we view our bodies. You may …

The Power of Words: A Missive for Sexperts, Sex Therapists, & Educators

Disclaimer: I realize that not all sex therapists, sex educators, sex workers, or sex professionals want to be inclusive and accepting. If that is you, I honor your path and encourage you to stop reading. This article isn’t for you. I’ll admit that I struggle to use inclusive language sometimes. Being deliberate in my word choices can feel like a …