Sex Gets Real 89: Butt sex and the REAL mess

Butts get real A listener wants us to be really real. Just how messy is anal play? She wants to try it, but she’s psyched herself out over the poop. That sends us off on a bender on all things butts – from hair to the doorbell technique to Dylan getting REALLY excited about all the things she likes in …

Sex Gets Real 88: Stoya rape & Bondage Bands

Straight guys having sexing with straight guys? We want to start the episode by saying that we stand in solidarity with Stoya after she named James Deen as her rapist. It takes tremendous courage to speak up, especially when the person you’re naming is so popular and beloved. Let’s talk about the psychology of victim blaming. Let’s also talk about …

Sex Gets Real 87: STI stigma and poly feels

Sex. The scariest thing in the world? Dawn really loved this conversation about STI stigma. A recent article in The Atlantic (link below in the show notes) talked about some research findings that show people are terrified of sex. People judge someone more harshly for transmitting a mild case of curable chlamydia than killing someone with swine flu. Why? Because …

Sex Gets Real 86: Self-sucking and vag superpowers for evil

Rhonda Rousey versus Dawn Serra. We’re finally back on track after losing some episodes a few weeks back. We revisit a listener email about self-sucking. Should he introduce his talent to his wife? The thought kind of turns him on. Then, Dawn and Dylan talk about masturbation being a sin along with a new superpower: zombiefying vagina goo. Scary stuff. …

Sex Gets Real 85: Paris attacks & trapped in a marriage

A kid on a bus does hand motions at Dawn that get her real worked up. Dawn & Dylan take a moment to talk about the Paris attacks, plus the lack of visibility on attacks in Beirut, Baghdad, and when the violence is against people of color. We wish peace for all us, but if we want human rights to …

Sex Gets Real 84: Hysterectomies & libido

Hysterectomies can impact sex, plus soapy blowjobs We have a full episode for you this week. From listener stories about fingering circles as a teenager to warnings against soapy blowjobs, our listeners are certainly adventurous. Plus, one listener wants to know what can be done now that his wife has had a full hysterectomy and has zero desire for sex. …

Sex Gets Real 83: Newbie sex, swinger sex, & demo sex

Newbie sex, swinger sex, and demo sex. Dylan is back from Hawaii. Basically, it was really hot and there was boob sweat. Dawn attended Sex Down South where she saw a hand sex demo, did a masturbation circle, and generally had an amazing time learning from Tristan Taormino and Amy Jo Goddard. Plus, we have so many listener emails – …

Sex Gets Real 82: Consent & a special needs child

The accidental HIQI. Dawn had a shitty week. Not only was she battling Strep, but she fried her laptop and lost this week’s episode. So, we’re doing a HIQI in place of our longer episode and we’ll be back on track in 2 weeks. So, what are we talking about this week besides Dylan’s vacation to Hawaii? Well, a listener, …

Sex Gets Real 80: Amy Jo Goddard, Woman on Fire

Sex intelligence and erotic empowerment. Sex Down South is October 15-17th in Atlanta. Amy Jo Goddard will be one of the keynote speakers, and Dawn will be there. Join in the fun if you’re local. We are so excited to have Amy Jo Goddard joining us today to talk about her new book “Woman on Fire” and talking all things …