Sex Gets Real Podcast
Welcome to Sex Gets Real, a podcast about sex, pleasure, relationships, and body liberation.
Sex Gets Real Podcast
A weekly podcast dedicated to helping you deepen your curiosity around sex, relationships, bodies, and life.
Launched in January 2014, Sex Gets Real has been downloaded over 6 million times. Explore the most recent episodes below, and be sure to subscribe on iTunes (or your favorite podcasting app) so you never miss an episode! Want to send me a question? Hop over to the contact page. I’d love to hear from you!
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A hero
Dawn is really doing the work to make this world a better place. It’s so rare to hear people talk like she does with the guests, and offering little steps people can take to truly make a difference in how they interact with other humans. This show gives me hope for humanity!
– wuhhappen
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Insightful and empowering
I feel completely at home here – bowled over by brilliant advice and nourishing conversations.
The great content & advice Dawn and her incredible guests provide, combined with the relatable way in which they deliver it had me hooked from the very first listen. Sex Gets Real is a must listen for anyone interested in exploring their own sexual evolution & development. Keep up the incredible work Dawn! 🙏
– J. Barshop
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Open minded loveliness!
I absolutely LOVE this podcast! Dawn responds to listener questions with so much compassion and kindness. I love that loaded/taboo topics like sex can be discussed matter-of-factly. I have learned so much listening to this, and it has significantly expanded my world view! Sex positivity is essential to reducing shame and improving public health and this podcast is a great way to bring it to the public!
– Meatbags14
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One of the best podcasts out there
Dawn Serra speaks about sex, relationships, kinks and fetishes, and being kind to yourself in a way that is approachable and easy to listen to. I find it to be a very helpful and educational podcast, and there is much to learn here. The Explore More Summit she’s worked so hard to produce the last couple of years is one of the most life changing, amazing, educational collections of talks out there, and really helps a person learn how to navigate relationships of any kind with people from many walks of life. Dawn Serra’s podcasts are amazing and fascinating. Anyone interested in becoming more capable of effective communication with their partners, or becoming more kind to themselves, should consider listening to this!
– faerynsaga
Recent Episodes
301: Sex and depression with JoEllen Notte
JoEllen Notte is here to help us explore depression, relationships, and how depression and mental health can impact sex and desire, plus connecting during a pandemic....
300: Jaclyn Friedman on believing women
Jaclyn Friedman is here to talk about her new book, "Believe Me". We talk patriarchy, rape culture, ways we punish women, & what it means to believe women....
299: Leonore Tjia on highly sensitive people, why mental health models are anti-erotic.
Leonore Tjia is here to talk about highly sensitive people, why mental health is inherently anti-erotic, & how we can build healthier relationships....
298: Discharge, FGM scars, cheating during Alzheimers, & teaching kids pleasure with food
What kind of vaginal discharge is normal? Overcoming disgust over FGM scars? Is it cheating if your wife has Alzheimers? Teaching kids pleasure with food....
297: Christy Harrison on eating for pleasure, desirability, and being anti-diet, Part 2
Part 2! Christy Harrison of Food Psych is here to talk about pleasure, happiness, weight stigma, what it means to be anti-diet, and why trusting our hungers around food & sex is so important....
296: Christy Harrison on pleasure, happiness, and being anti-diet, Part 1
Christy Harrison of Food Psych is here to talk about pleasure, happiness, weight stigma, what it means to be anti-diet, and why trusting our hungers around food & sex is so important....
295: Can we change our sexual preferences? Plus, a lesbian who wants to try sex with men.
Can we change our sexual preferences? If we prefer tall men or thin women, isn't that just a personal preference? And a lesbian who wants sex with men....
294: Making erotic films with Inka Winter
Inka Winter, founder of ForPlay Films, joins us to talk about creating porn, the importance of sex education, & why paying for your porn is so important....
293: Sexual attraction, gay for getting blowjobs, & cheating with a sex worker
Can you change who you're sexually attracted to? Is my boyfriend gay for getting blowjobs from a guy? Is it OK to cheat with a sex worker?...
292: Sexual assault, oral sex, and regret after a threesome
Long-term love and how we can stay present, how to do oral sex when you struggle for breath, and how to deal with regret and hurt after a threesome....
291: STIs, masturbation buddies, shame and fat bodies
Is it normal to want a masturbation buddy if you're a straight man? Why are STIs on the rise? And what to do if you feel shame about your fat body....
290: Wheelchair sex and being scared of sex
How do you have sex with someone in a wheelchair? What if you're in eating disorder recovery and sex scares you? What if you're queer & scared of sex, too?...
289: When the sex stops after you move in together & non-binary pregnancy
When the sex stops after you move in together, non-binary pregnancy, and why sex with fat folks is not revolutionary....
288: Squirting and incontinence, men who don’t like sex, & large breasts
Abuse in polyamory. Can squirting cause incontinence? Are there men who don't like sex? How to have sex with someone with large breasts?...
287: Darcey Steinke on menopause, changing bodies, & a new way forward
What is menopause? Is menopause all bad? Where can I learn more about menopause? Darcey Steinke is here to talk "Flash Count Diary" and menopause....
286: Exploring bisexuality, life after rape, Hashimoto’s & dating
Can someone explore their bisexuality while being in a monogamous relationship? Do things get better after you've been raped? How can you balance body positivity with Hashimoto's and how can you tell a potential date about your health...
285: Kai Cheng Thom on consent, healing, & pleasure
Kai Cheng Thom is here to talk about consent, pleasure, healing, trauma, and transformative justice. How can we do consent better?...
284: Learning to be vulnerable, is cheating bad, and big penises
How can I learn to be vulnerable? Why do I lie to my friends? How can I get better at rejection? Is cheating bad? How can I deal with a big penis in bed?...
283: Healthy relationship behaviors (green flags), community accountability
What are healthy relationship behaviors? How do I do community accountability and set up an accountability pod? What is play party etiquette?...
282: Squirting, fat-friendly therapist, & when a marriage falls apart
What if you're embarrassed by squirting? How can I find a fat-friendly therapist? What if my marriage is falling apart? And let's talk about accountability!...
281: Sexy pics of your ex, herpes & pleasure
Why coming forward about sexual assault doesn't "ruin" lives, what to do when you're deeply ashamed of masturbation, & does loving penises make a straight man gay?...
280: Nurturance culture with Nora Samaran
Explore nurturance culture, rape culture, accountability, and relational responsibility with Nora Samaran and Dawn Serra as we dive into Nora's new book....
REPLAY 221: Andy Izenson on alternative justice, resilient relationships, & masculinity
What is transformative justice? What does it mean to be in community with each other? What is masculinity? Andy Izenson is helps us answer those questions....
279: Extreme self-pleasure shame and sexuality versus genitals
Why coming forward about sexual assault doesn't "ruin" lives, what to do when you're deeply ashamed of masturbation, & does loving penises make a straight man gay?...
278: Entitlement, recovery, and sex ed with Anne Hodder-Shipp
How do I have sex while in recovery? Does my partner owe me sex? What is entitlement in relationships? How can I be authentic in dating and relationships?...
277: Cuckqueaning and the dangers of advice
What is cuckqueaning? The dangers of giving advice. Are ACA meetings for me? How do I explore fantasies if I have trauma? Creating community accountability....
276: Attachment styles, cheating, & experimenting
Attachment styles, cheating and betrayal, and being bicurious. What if anxious attachment is because being anxious is wise? What if I cheat?...
275: Abuse in feminist porn, finding body trust, and love stories
What is Body Trust? Feminist porn and abuse on set. How to manage dating a couple with children when you disagree on clothing....
274: Changing orgasms, dungeon etiquette, & codependency
What to know before you go to your first dungeon and play party, especially if you're a woman. Why did my orgasms change? Polyamory #MeToo updates....
273: Crushing on a co-worker, book recommendations, & becoming a better communicator
What should I do about my crush on a co-worker? What are some book recommendations about sex and relationships? How can become a better communicator?...
272: Tristan Taormino on growing up, changing bodies, & whiteness
Who is Tristan Taormino? Changing bodies, chronic pain, and sex. Liberation and sex education. Getting caught by a parent when you're masturbating....
271: Staying or going when you love two people, hating your vulva, & love across borders
What should I do if I love two people? Is my vulva ugly? How can I learn to love how my vulva looks? The challenges of loving across borders....
Sex Gets Real 270: Chris Maxwell Rose on touch and the erotic
LAST CALL The July cohort of Power in Pleasure starts July 21st, so this is the final DAY to register before it closes. You deserve pleasure. You deserve to honor your hunger. Your power is tied to your pleasure. Explore with us and lear...
Sex Gets Real 269: Sinclair Sexsmith and rife on 24/7 power exchange relationships
LAST CALL The July cohort of Power in Pleasure starts July 21st, so this is the final week to register before it closes. You deserve pleasure. You deserve to honor your hunger. Your power is tied to your pleasure. Explore with us and lea...
Sex Gets Real 268: Redefining love, healing from relationship wounds, & self criticism
Your pleasure matters. Join the July cohort of my 5-week online Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. Welcome to this week’s episode, it’s a very special treat, but first! Did you know y...
Sex Gets Real 267: A boyfriend who won’t initiate, missing out on sex, & becoming a sex educator
Your pleasure matters. Join the July cohort of my 5-week online Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. Welcome to this week’s episode, full of your questions and some thoughts and questi...
Sex Gets Real 266: Threesomes, men having boundaries, & becoming a sex educator
Your pleasure matters. Join the July cohort of my 5-week online Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. My chat with Sinclair Sexsmith and rife got postposed, so this week’s episode is jus...
Sex Gets Real 265: “Straight pride”, breaking relationship agreements, and sexual fantasies
Your pleasure matters. Join the July cohort of my 5-week online Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. This week’s episode is just me and you. First, I get on a soapbox about the bullshit...
Sex Gets Real 264: Getting a partner to dirty talk, crossdressing, and accountability updates
Your pleasure matters. Join the July cohort of my 5-week online Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. This week’s episode is just me and you. First up, some updates from the survivor pod...
Sex Gets Real 263: Aida Manduley on accountability and transformative justice
Want to work with me? Join the July cohort of the Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and pre-enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. My coaching practice has a few new spots available. If you could use support around the places ...
Sex Gets Real 262: Samantha Manewitz on emotional abuse and gaslighting
Want to work with me? Join the July cohort of the Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and pre-enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. My coaching practice has a few new spots available. If you could use support around the places ...
Sex Gets Real 260: Play party etiquette, bra and panty fetish, and cutting of family after abuse
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Sex Gets Real 259: Accountability, women and older partners, & only wanting solo sex even when you’re married
WHOA! Free birth control? YES!!!! Simple Health is generously sponsoring this episode and YOU can get a free prescription for birth control without every leaving your home. That’s right, Simple Health has made birth control easier and ch...
Sex Gets Real 258: Healing from emotional abuse, a partner who doesn’t want intercourse, & swinging
It’s time to deepen your relationship with pleasure. Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 29, 2019 (we’ll enroll again in June!). It’s called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and ...
Sex Gets Real 257: Bratty submissives, being cheated on, & creative sex
Is your relationship with pleasure complicated? Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 29, 2019 (we’ll enroll again in June!). It’s called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy a...
Sex Gets Real 256: M’kali-Hashiki on the erotic, safety, and healing
Is your relationship with pleasure complicated? Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 22, 2019 (we’ll enroll again in June!). It’s called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy a...
Sex Gets Real 255: Can you ask your partner to not watch porn and when a cheater gets cheated on
Is your relationship with pleasure complicated? Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 22, 2019 (we’ll enroll again in June!). It’s called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy a...
Sex Gets Real 254: Taking responsibility in relationship, living with an ex, and healthy relationship behaviors
NOW ENROLLING! Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 22, 2019 (we’ll enroll again in June!). It’s called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy and runs for five weeks online. I’...
Sex Gets Real 253: Wanting to stop squirting, condom complaints, & finding feminist community
NOW ENROLLING! Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 22, 2019 (we’ll enroll again in June!). It’s called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy and runs for five weeks online. I’...
Sex Gets Real 252: A fiance who expects threesomes, anger management, & later-in-life first-time sex
NOW ENROLLING! Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 22, 2019 (we’ll enroll again in June!). It’s called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy and runs for five weeks online. I...
Sex Gets Real 251: Sex positive parenting, hiring escorts in a sexless marriage plus Shine Louise Houston
Two important things before we get started: Register for Explore More Summit, my free online conference! It starts February 25th, 2019 and the theme this year is PLEASURE. You do NOT want to miss it. Check it out here at exploremoresummi...
Sex Gets Real 250: Embodiment, pleasure, and safety with Sage Hayes
Before we get started there’s a huge thing you should know about: Explore More Summit 2019 is HAPPENING! The 4th annual free online conference is all about pleasure this year. You do not want to miss these conversations. They are incredi...
Sex Gets Real 249: Tumblr alternatives, struggling with being on top during sex, & emotional outbursts
ONE BIG THING before we get started: Register for Explore More Summit! It starts February 25th, 2019 and the theme this year is PLEASURE. It’s free and online, and you do NOT want to miss it. Check it out here at exploremoresummit.com. O...
Sex Gets Real 248: Sexual wildness, the erotic, and mythology with Leonore Tjia
Before we get started there are three HUGE things: This episode is generously brought to you by LOLA. Listeners get 40% off their subscription at mylola.com using discount code SGR. Have organic cotton pads, tampons, wipes, and even cond...
Sex Gets Real 247: adrienne maree brown on pleasure activism
Before we get started there are three HUGE things: This episode is generously brought to you by LOLA. Listeners get 40% off their subscription at mylola.com using discount code SGR. Have organic cotton pads, tampons, wipes, and even cond...
Sex Gets Real 246: Supporting an asexual teen, healing from trauma, & #SurvivingRKelly
Two things to get started: Grab the official Sex Gets Real recommended reading list now! Not only will you have access to my most recommended books, but it will add you to the show’s newsletter which is going to be crucial as social medi...
Sex Gets Real 245: ALOK on body hair, art, friendship, legacy, & the violence of gender
Enter to win “Girl Sex 101” and “Bad Dyke” by Allison Moon to celebrate the New Year! Cut off for entries is January 15, 2019. One lucky winner will be selected at random , so enter now. U.S. and Canada folks only. Also, if you’r...
Sex Gets Real 244: End of year giveaway, crossdressing neighbors, & dating a sister
Three things to get started: Grab the official Sex Gets Real recommended reading list now! Not only will you have access to my most recommended books, but it will add you to the show’s newsletter which is going to be crucial as social me...
Sex Gets Real 243: Chronic pain, erotophobia, and community only spaces with Cameron Glover
Have you grabbed the Sex Gets Real official book list yet? Not only do you get all of the show’s most recommended books, but you’ll join the Sex Gets Real newsletter which is becoming more and more important as all sexuality discussions ...
Sex Gets Real 242: Rejecting romance, feeling sad about desire, poetry
Grab the official Sex Gets Real recommended reading list now! Not only will you have access to my most recommended books, but it will add you to the show’s newsletter which is going to be crucial as social media networks purge sex educat...
Sex Gets Real 241: Andrew Gurza returns to talk disability, toys, & his mom
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Sex Gets Real 240a: EMERGENCY – Facebook, Instagram, and Tumblr changes
Sign-up to stay in touch with the show if we get banned from social media and iTunes. Sex Gets Real Book List: https://dawnserra.com/books/ Explore More Summit: http://exploremoresummit.com Enter the holiday giveaway for a hand-written Me...
Sex Gets Real 240: Unprotected sex with herpes, long distance love, & coming out
Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it’s time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old...
Sex Gets Real 239: Virginity, exploring non-binary gender, & being a cis man
Virginity, exploring non-binary gender, & being a cis man...
Sex Gets Real 238: Birth, postpartum, and your inner jaguar
If you’ve been thinking about working with a coach around your desire, relationship, body, or shame, I am now accepting new clients and my rates are increasing January 2019. Learn more at dawnserra.com/work-with-me. The Fourth Trimester ...
Sex Gets Real 237: Not coming out, asexual questions, & frustrated sex
Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it’s time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old...
Sex Gets Real 236: How to talk to kids about gender and sex
How can I talk to my kids about gender and sex? Who is Lindsay Amer? What is Queer Kid Stuff? Let's talk about talking to kids about sex and gender!...
Sex Gets Real 235: Healing, resilience, & pleasure with Staci Haines
If you’ve been thinking about working with a coach around your desire, relationship, body, or shame, I am now accepting new clients and my rates are increasing January 2019. Learn more at dawnserra.com/work-with-me. This episode is spons...
Sex Gets Real 234: Feelings, emotional labor, and empathy with Kate Kenfield
If you’ve been thinking about working with a coach around your desire, relationship, body, or shame, I am now accepting new clients and my rates are increasing January 2019. Learn more at dawnserra.com/work-with-me. Why story hijacking a...
233: Jes Baker on fat bodies, sex, intimacy, & pcos
Jes Baker on fat bodies, sex, intimacy, and PCOS. What if my body is changing? How to have honest conversations about your body?...
232: Sex positive books, fantasy of harming yourself, & how pleasure is political
What are the best books for learning about sex positivity? Is it normal to have a fantasy about hurting yourself? How is pleasure political?...
231: How you can be more sensual with Ev’Yan Whitney
What is sensuality? How can I be more sensual? What is the sensual selfie challenge with Ev'Yan Whitney? Can you be queer and married?...
Sex Gets Real 230: Pickup artists & the classics with Donna Zuckerberg
Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it’s time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old...
Sex Gets Real 229: Pleasure and reproductive justice with Monica Raye Simpson
Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it’s time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old...
Sex Gets Real 228: Men’s body trust and masculinity with Aaron Flores
Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it’s time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old...
Sex Gets Real 227: Better sex through mindfulness with Dr. Lori Brotto
Have you been feeling stuck in your relationship, frustrated with your body, or totally disconnected from your pleasure & desire? One-on-one coaching spots are available in my private practice and rates are going up January 1st, 2019, so...
Sex Gets Real 226: Period sex, who we find sexy, and #NotAllMen
Are you ready to sign up for Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop? Grab your spot today for just $37. Ten lessons, ten worksheets, a lifetime of shifting how you feel about boundaries. What if period sex is awful? How can we fin...
Sex Gets Real 225: Stella Harris helps us when we’re tongue tied
Have you been feeling stuck in your relationship, frustrated with your body, or totally disconnected from your pleasure & desire? One-on-one coaching spots are available in my private practice and rates are going up January 1st, 2019, so...
Sex Gets Real 224: Entering the friendzone & male submission
Are you ready to sign up for Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop? Grab your spot today for just $37. Ten lessons, ten worksheets, a lifetime of shifting how you feel about boundaries. What even is the friendzone, how can a man ...
Sex Gets Real 223: Virgie Tovar on fat dating, boundaries, misogyny, & diets
Do you struggle to say no without over-explaining? Do you feel hurt when people you love set boundaries that disappoint you? Are you looking for ways to stop apologizing and to start taking up more space? Well, Take Up Space, my online b...
Sex Gets Real 222: Sarah Thompson on body trust, pleasure, and non-binary identity
Do you struggle to say no without over-explaining? Do you feel hurt when people you love set boundaries that disappoint you? Are you looking for ways to stop apologizing and to start taking up more space? Well, Take Up Space, my online b...
Sex Gets Real 221: Andy Izenson on alternative justice, resilient relationships, & masculinity
Do you struggle to say no without over-explaining? Do you feel hurt when people you love set boundaries that disappoint you? Are you looking for ways to stop apologizing and to start taking up more space? Well, Take Up Space, my online b...
Sex Gets Real 220: Body trust. Trans sex woes. Self-harm scars.
Are you ready to sign up for Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop? Grab your spot today for just $37. Ten lessons, ten worksheets, a lifetime of shifting how you feel about boundaries. A passionate lover. Body trust. Trans sex w...
Sex Gets Real 219: Painful anal, a husband who says she’s “too fat”, & confronting resentment
Are you ready to sign up for Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop? Grab your spot today for just $37. Ten lessons, ten worksheets, a lifetime of shifting how you feel about boundaries. Intersex-inclusive language. Resentment in ...
Sex Gets Real 218: Tender masculinity, condom expiration dates, & Dommes who receive
Do you struggle to say no without over-explaining? Do you feel hurt when people you love set boundaries that disappoint you? Are you looking for ways to stop apologizing and to start taking up more space? Take Up Space, my online boundar...
Sex Gets Real 217: Nadine Thornhill on saving comprehensive sex education
Do you struggle to say no without over-explaining? Do you feel hurt when people you love set boundaries that disappoint you? Are you looking for ways to stop apologizing and to start taking up more space? Well, Take Up Space, my online b...
Sex Gets Real 216: Boring sex, calling masturbation cheating, & stolen sex toys
Heard about it on the show? The Sex Map game is just $9 and can be purchased here. Your questions. Answered. Katie has a new fat fling. She really likes him, but he talks about diets and weight loss a lot. She’s been learning about diet...
Sex Gets Real 215: Shadeen Francis on trust, honesty, & cheating
Do you struggle to say no without over-explaining? Do you feel hurt when people you love set boundaries that disappoint you? Are you looking for ways to stop apologizing and to start taking up more space? Well, Take Up Space, my online b...
Sex Gets Real 214: Foot fetish, a husband who refuses sex, & tell tale orgasm signs
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Sex Gets Real 213: Is porn destroying this relationship? Plus gender roles, sex toys, & NRE.
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Sex Gets Real 212: Secret fantasies, hating a partner’s body, & virgins
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Sex Gets Real 211: Amy Jo Goddard on sex, power, & leadership
SIGN UP NOW! Explore More Summit 2018 is happening now. It ends May 2nd, so grab your all-access pass for free before it’s too late. exploremoresummit.com. What is changing in the wake of the #MeToo movement? How do we talk about sex and...
Sex Gets Real 210: Jen Cross on healing trauma, dissociation, & the erotic
SIGN UP NOW! Explore More Summit 2018 starts in just a few hours and runs for the next 10 days. It’s free and online. Grab your ticket now at exploremoresummit.com. What if we could not only write ourselves whole after trauma, but write ...
Sex Gets Real 209: Sexual pain & dissociation, virginity, & sex apps
Eager to sign-up for this year’s Explore More Summit? It kicks off April 23rd, 2018 and you can enroll for free at exploremoresummit.com. It’s your questions this week, folks, and there are so many amazing ones to get to. KiltmanFL wr...
Sex Gets Real 208: Sexual liberation & intersectional sex ed with Roan Coughtry
Eager to sign-up for this year’s Explore More Summit? It kicks off April 23rd, 2018 and you can enroll for free at exploremoresummit.com. What is intersectional sex ed? What does sexual liberation look like? This week, I’m joined by Roan...
Sex Gets Real 207: Sobriety, changing a partner, & fetishizing male virgins
Are you joining us for the 3rd annual Explore More Summit? It kicks off April 23, 2018 and it’s free and online. Grab your spot now at exploremoresummit.com. We did it. We did a live recording of the show with about a dozen of you joinin...
Sex Gets Real 206: Witches, sluts, and feminists with Kristen Sollée
Eager to sign-up for this year’s Explore More Summit? It kicks off April 23rd, 2018 and you can enroll for free at exploremoresummit.com. Are you a witch, a slut, or a feminist? Then this episode is for you because Slutist founder Kriste...
Sex Gets Real 205: The first kid’s book featuring sex work, How Mamas Love Their Babies
LAST CHANCE to grab your seat for the online, live taping of Sex Gets Real to celebrate our 200th episode. Enter to join us here. It happens on March 22nd at 5pm Pacific, so this is your last chance. This week Dawn Serra is chatting with...
Sex Gets Real 204: Joanna Angel on erotic fantasies, nostalgia, & staying creative in porn
Don’t forget to grab your seat for the LIVE taping of Sex Gets Real to celebrate our 200th episode. Enter to join us here. Joanna Angel is joining the show this week and she’s excited to talk about her new book, “Night Shift: A Choose Yo...
Sex Gets Real 203: Married & poly, no guilt after an affair, & fear of sex
There are still spots available for the LIVE recording of Sex Gets Real on March 22nd at 5pm Pacific/8pm Eastern. If you want to help celebrate the 200th episode, just complete this little entry form – I would love to see you there! Pa...
Sex Gets Real 202: Training doctors & moving on after harming someone with Bianca Palmisano
Don’t forget to grab your seat for the LIVE taping of Sex Gets Real to celebrate our 200th episode. Enter to join us here. This week, I am joined by the incredible Bianca Palmisano from Intimate Health Consulting. Bianca specializes in t...
Sex Gets Real 201: Painful sex, feeling lonely in love, & fearing STIs
There are still spots available for the LIVE recording of Sex Gets Real on March 22nd at 5pm Pacific/8pm Eastern. If you want to help celebrate the 200th episode, just complete this little entry form – I would love to see you there! Pa...
Sex Gets Real 200: Unconventional sex, betrayal, & looking for signs of an orgasm
HAPPY EPISODE 200! If you want to enter to win one of 49 spots on the online live recording of Sex Gets Real, complete this little entry form. Must be 18 or over to enter and be available March 22nd at 5pm PT/8pm ET. A random selection w...
Sex Gets Real 199: Being a survivor & the ethics of sex toys with Sarah Holliday
Formidable Femme, aka Sarah B Holliday, is here this week talking about sex toy companies, the ethics of selling sex toys, rejecting the perfect survivor narrative, healing from trauma, plus we field a listener question about abuse. Sara...
Sex Gets Real 198: Long distance BDSM, porn addiction, & abuse in love
Welcome to this week’s episode of listener questions! And Patreon supporters – this week’s bonus is me reading you a little queer erotica. Go listen now! First up, Love All of Him sent an update. Find out what happened after they follow...
Sex Gets Real 197: Cavanaugh Quick dives into awkwardness, body language, being a switch, & consent
Talking to other sex educators, researchers, and experts is one of my favorite things in life, especially when the conversations are rich, personal, nuanced, and challenging. I met Cavanaugh Quick through O.School (where we both live str...
Sex Gets Real 196: Luna Matatas on seducing the anus, strap-ons, & sex clubs
What do butt play, pegging the patriarchy, non-sexual Dominance & submission, strap-ons, and sex clubs have in common? Why, Luna Matatas, of course. She is joining me this week to talk about all the delicious, yumminess that is kink and ...
Sex Gets Real 195: Former pro dominatrix Mona Darling on kink, pet play, & orgasm control
Mona Darling is here to talk all things kinky. As a former pro Dominatrix with over 20 years of experience dominating folks in the kinkiest of ways, she has some fantastic advice on how to get started in kink, the skills most people over...
Sex Gets Real 194: Mono, wanting lots of sex, OK Cupid name change
Happy New Year! This is dropping on New Year’s Eve 2017, so let’s shuffle 2018 in in style. I got myself a gift of a new vibrator. I’ll be reporting back with my thoughts over on Patreon for supporters there. You can support the show, to...
Sex Gets Real 193: JoEllen Notte on the best of 2017
If you’re looking for a last minute holiday gift or you want to start your 2018 with a bang, don’t forget you can grab my online on-demand workshops now! From porn to anal, from games to relationship charters, you’ll find all sorts of fu...
Sex Gets Real 192: Listener questions on orgasms, being gay, sexting, & therapy
Support the show on Patreon! Also, if you’re looking for a unique holiday gift, check out all of my online workshops and DIY goodies. They can make amazing gifts and they’re all around $5-30 each. Pop over and see what’s available now. A...
Sex Gets Real 191: Face sitting, cheating, & hating your body
My porn workshop, Hands Down: A Workshop on How Porn Can Heal, Connect, and Be Ethical, is now streaming. Check out the details at dawnserra.com/porn. Let’s talk about the porn! Here’s that funny article I was giggling over called, “20 T...
Sex Gets Real 190: Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg on kink & changing bodies
Did you hear last week? CrashPad Series is sponsoring the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition. It’s free and online, so sign-up today. We’ll spend 5 days going super deep into body politics, self acceptance, fat activism, diet culture, w...
Sex Gets Real 189: Urban Tantra with Barbara Carrellas
I am so excited. CrashPad Series is sponsoring the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition AND they sent me an exclusive audio clip of April Flores and Milcah filming a recent scene. You can hear the juicy details in the show this week. HEA...
Sex Gets Real 188: Trust after betrayal, fat sex, safer sex
Two things! Sign-up for the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition at exploremoresummit.com. It’s free and kicks off December 4th. Prepare to be challenged and cracked open. My porn workshop, Hands Down: A Workshop on How Porn Can Heal, Con...
Sex Gets Real 187: Getting Unscrewed with Jaclyn Friedman
Don’t forget, the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition kicks off December 4th and it’s totally free. We’ll spend 5 days going super deep into body politics, self acceptance, fat activism, diet culture, weight stigma, and shedding body sha...
Sex Gets Real 186: Technology meets sex ed with O.School founder Andrea Barrica
First up, I am so excited to announce the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition. It kicks off December 4th and it’s totally free. We’ll spend 5 days going super deep into body politics, self acceptance, fat activism, diet culture, weight s...
Sex Gets Real 185: Hookups with herpes, chastity belt fantasies, & raising sex positive kids
Your questions have been pouring in. And of course, if you want to practice being the sexpert, folks who support the show on Patreon at $5 get to offer their advice for the show, too. Or, support at $3 per month for weekly bonus content ...
Sex Gets Real 184: Afrosexology on Black pleasure, masturbation, & radical twerking
Love the show? Now you can support it on Patreon. For $3 per month, you’ll get weekly bonus content and for $5 per month you can help me answer listener questions! I am absolutely in love with this week’s chat with Dalychia and Rafaella ...
Sex Gets Real 183: Housework & resentment, chronic cheating, & Rare Bird Lit
Welcome to this week’s show! We’re talking books, housework & resentment, and cheating. Oh, and I just started watching Big Mouth on Netflix which is an absurd, bizarre cartoon all about going through puberty. You might want to check it ...
Sex Gets Real 182: Masochism, virginity, low self-esteem, & permission slips
Hello, from New Orleans! Hurricane Nate meant I was stuck in Louisiana for an extra day, but it also meant more time at SisterSong’s “Let’s Talk About Sex” conference. I share a little about what that conference brought up for me and the...
Sex Gets Real 181: Erotic art and photography with Maggie West
An updated Patreon you say? Why yes. Yes it is. Check out the sweet new rewards. For the past few months, one of my favorite things on Instagram has been Maggie West’s gorgeous nude photo series for Amber Rose’s Slut Walk. The colors, th...
Sex Gets Real 180: Fisting, platonic kink, sex labs & more with Bex Caputo
An updated Patreon you say? Why yes. Yes it is. Check out the sweet new rewards (that I can actually deliver). What happens when two sex educators get together and geek out? You get this spanking new episode featuring Bex Caputo from the...
Sex Gets Real 179: Flogging & spanking, a marriage-ruining boot fetish, & loneliness
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Sex Gets Real 178: Yes, I have herpes with Dr. Sheila Loanzon
What happens when you get a herpes diagnosis? And more importantly, what happens if you begin hiding that you have herpes? Dr. Sheila Loanzon, an OBGYN who gives amazing PAP smears, is here to talk about her very personal story and new b...
Sex Gets Real 177: Thriving in sex work with Lola Davina
How can you thrive as a sex worker, navigating the fact that you have no real safety while also performing erotic fantasies and sex at the same time? How can you care for yourself as clients bring in their pain, shame, and fear and expec...
Sex Gets Real 176: Christopher Zeischegg (Danny Wylde) on writing, monogamy, the future of porn
Guess what? Christopher Zeischegg is here this week. You may know him as porn performer Danny Wylde. I had a chance to read his book, “The Wolves that Live in Skin and Space,” and we talk all about his writing, the horror genre, leaving ...
Sex Gets Real 175: Sensual BDSM porn, inconsistent sex, & inorgasmic partners
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Sex Gets Real 174: The Sex Myth with Rachel Hills and Jennie Runk
I wanted to open this week’s episode with a note about racism and white supremacy in light of the Charlottesville crap that’s recently unfolded. I mentioned a bunch of places where you can donate money to help fight racism and support...
Sex Gets Real 173: Riley J Dennis on trans identity and sex, YouTube culture, & porn
Riley J Dennis is someone I’ve been watching on YouTube for a little while and completely admiring. I adore her passion for anti-oppressive work, talking about feminism, politics, sex, trans issues, and a bunch more. So, I decided to rea...
Sex Gets Real 172: Cooper Beckett on swinging, desire, & the struggle to orgasm
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Sex Gets Real 171: Queer and trans healthcare with Zena Sharman
A new episode? Yep! And, if you love the show, you can support it on Patreon. Folks who support at the $3 level and above get weekly bonus content that you can’t find anywhere else. Of course, you can support the show at any level from $...
Sex Gets Real 170: Diary of a Rope Slut with Emily Bingham
I know tons of you are either kink lovers or kink curious, so I have a feeling you’re going to enjoy this chat with rope expert and rope love Emily Bingham. She recently published an erotic memoir all about her kinky, erotic bondage adve...
Sex Gets Real 169: Cheating & healing, a wife who hates come, & age differences
Interested in supporting the show? Well, now you can! Just head to Patreon.com/sgrpodcast and you can pledge anything from $1 and up. I would ADORE the support. Check out the details and join in the fun. This week it’s just you and me, ...
Sex Gets Real 168: Amarna Miller on ethical porn, feminism, & polyamory
Love the show? Well, Patreons who support at the $3 level and above get exclusive weekly bonus content you can’t find ANYWHERE else. Join in the fun at patreon.com/sgrpodcast As for this week’s episode? Amarna Miller is here and we talk...
Sex Gets Real 167: Wendy Strgar on passion in monogamy, lube, & sexual fantasies
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Sex Gets Real 166: Getting real about polyamory with Ruby Bouie Johnson
SEEKING YOUR SUPPORT! Chasing sponsors for a show about sex is not easy, so if you’d like to throw a little love my way, you can get all kinds of fun bonuses on Patreon. In fact, for just $3 per month, you get weekly bonus content that y...
Sex Gets Real 165: HPV, anal pain, becoming a Domme, & body hair
Interested in supporting the show? Well, now you can! Just head to patreon.com/sgrpodcast and you can pledge anything from $1 and up. I would ADORE the support. This week it’s just you and me, working our way through some rad listener qu...
Sex Gets Real 164: Playboy columnist Bridget Phetasy on Orgasmic Meditation
This week’s episode is brought to you by Talkspace. Listeners get $30 off their first month of therapy with coupon code SGR, so check it out and spread the word to support the show. It’s not too late, either, to support the show on Patre...
Sex Gets Real 163: Dylan on priest fetishes and oral sex
This week’s episode is brought to you by Talkspace. Listeners get $30 off their first month of therapy with coupon code SGR, so check it out and spread the word to support the show. It’s HERE! My recent chat with Dylan. Patreon supporter...
Sex Gets Real 162: Carol Sanger and About Abortion
This week’s episode is brought to you by Talkspace. Listeners get $30 off their first month of therapy with coupon code SGR, so check it out and spread the word to support the show. This week’s episode is very special to me. I want to th...
Sex Gets Real 161: Tell me about sex, grandma with Anastasia Higginbotham
Patreon supporters get exclusive access to rad content and extended episodes. Pop over to http://patreon.com/sgrpodcast and support at any level (even $1!) to join in the fun. I am constantly on the lookout for people who are doing ama...
Sex Gets Real 160: Andre Shakti on polyamory and non-monogamy
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Sex Gets Real 159: Jaclyn Friedman on stealthing, sexual liberation, and why sexual assault awareness isn’t good enough anymore
Patreon supporters! Pop over to patreon.com/sgrpodcast and support at just $3 per month to get weekly bonus content you can’t find ANYWHERE else. This week Jaclyn Friedman is here. Known for her incredible work around sexual assault, s...
Sex Gets Real 158: Messy sex, dating obsessed, & jealousy
Did you hear? For just $3 per month Patreon supporters get weekly bonus content you can’t find anywhere else. Your support means so much! Also, don’t forget to send in your sex confessions! May’s theme is FOOD. I created a guidelines ...
Sex Gets Real 157: Siouxsie Q on anti-porn legislation, polyamory, & sex magic
Patreon supporters! The supporter-only PJ party is April 17th, so check it out at patreon.com/sgrpodcast and support at any level to get access. I am reading a devastating, lyrical book called “Abandon Me” by Melissa Febos. I’m desperat...
Sex Gets Real 156: Premature ejaculation, racist fetishes, & when a friend is raped
Don’t forget – April 17th, there is an online PJ party just for Patreon supporters of the show. We will spend an hour sharing stories, asking questions, and hanging out in our PJs. Bring your hot chocolate, comfy clothes, and let’s hang ...
Sex Gets Real 155: Andrew Gurza on sex, disability, Orphan Black, & flirting
Patreon supporters! Did you see the exclusive behind-the-scenes clip from Erotic Film School that I posted? If not, be sure to check it out at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. Andrew Gurza is here this week talking all about sex and disability. W...
Sex Gets Real 154: Erotic Film School, making porn, & first time lesbian sex
If you missed the Explore More Summit, you can still grab all of the talks for as little as $1.20 each plus loads of bonus materials. This weekend I am in San Francisco attending Madison Young’s Erotic Film School. I’m learning how to ma...
Sex Gets Real 153: Reid Mihalko on threesomes, polyamory, lesbian porn, and anti-oppression work
Reid Mihalko is here this week and our conversation goes deep. We start by geeking out over Reid’s latest adventures into anti-oppression work, learning about emotional labor as a cis white guy, and he even tears up over just how importa...
Sex Gets Real 152: Bad condom tech, confessions, & nervous dating
I am eyeball deep in the Explore More Summit. Day 5 is unfolding today (March 12th) and you can sign-up for the Explore More Summit here. It’s free and goes until March 17th. Anyway, because I’m so busy summiting, today is a nice and s...
Sex Gets Real 151: A different way to dominate, pegging problems, & foursomes
It’s a very special episode this week because you are getting to hear exclusive, never before heard clips from nine of the Explore More Summit talks. You’ll hear from Tristan Taormino, Allison Moon, Virgie Tovar, Melissa Toler, Dirty Lol...
Sex Gets Real 150: Madison Young on DIY porn, parenthood, and submission
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Sex Gets Real 149: Bad sex toys, sex toy fatigue, & the reality of running a sex shop
This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Enrollment for the 2017 Explore More Summit is OFFICIALLY open. The summit is free, runs for ten days, and features interviews with SOO many incredible thought-leaders...
Sex Gets Real 148: Listener questions galore on anal, strippers, vulvas, & female domination
This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. You are the first in the world to know that enrollment for the 2017 Explore More Summit is OFFICIALLY open. The summit is free, runs for ten days, and features intervi...
Sex Gets Real 147: Fat sex with “Curvy Girl Sex” author Elle Chase
This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Elle Chase is back, which delights me to no end (though, I’m wrong in the episode – Kate McCombs was the first repeat guest!). I adore this chat despite some audio iss...
Sex Gets Real 146: Female genital mutilation by Mariya Karimjee
This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. I made a Patreon for the show! YAY. If you want to support the show, check it out. There’s even a $1 option. Sometimes, you luck into an incredible opportunity. That h...
Sex Gets Real 145: Erotic filmmaking and pornography with visionary Erika Lust
This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. I made a Patreon for the show! YAY. If you want to support the show, check it out. There’s even a $1 option. This week there are two listener confessions – one at the ...
Sex Gets Real 144: Virginity and first time sex with Amber Keyser
Looking for the details on submitting a listener confession? I created a guidelines page for you. As you know, January’s theme this year for confessions is FIRSTS. It felt wonderful to be able to have Amber Keyser, author of The V-Word...
Sex Gets Real 143: Sarah Pappalardo from Reductress on satire, media, & feminism
Hey you! If you’re looking for the details on submitting a listener confession, I created a guidelines page for you. This week, we have our first listener confession from CK all about the first time she ended a relationship. Heads’ up th...
Sex Gets Real 142: A new year with first kisses, anal, & relationship problems
It’s New Year’s Day, 2017. It seems appropriate to start the year off with an intimate show between you and me, including a diary entry of my very first kiss. If you’d like to share your own confession on January’s theme of FIRSTS, then ...
Sex Gets Real 141: Losing your virginity, starting with anal, & empathy
This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. It’s Christmas Day! What better way to celebrate a holiday than with a sexy, fun chat with not one but TWO fellow sex educators. And from New Zealand, no less. Kate Mc...
Sex Gets Real 140: Rain DeGrey & her love of edges, BDSM, and porn
This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Did you hear the announcement about listener confessions being part of the show? Scroll to the bottom of this page to check out details, examples, suggestions, and how...
Sex Gets Real 139: Pubic hair, cheap sex toys, & YOUR confessions
This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Did you hear the announcement about listener confessions being part of the show? Scroll to the bottom of this page to check out details, examples, suggestions, and how...
Sex Gets Real 138: Kitty Stryker on sex work, polyamory, & what makes a community
This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Content note: talk of suicide. I always love when I get to have nuanced conversations about topics like sex work, porn, consent, and polyamory. So, when Kitty Stryker ...
Sex Gets Real 137: Erika Moen from Oh Joy Sex Toy is here!
This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Alex was the first person to ever share an Oh Joy Sex Toy comic with me. I was immediately enamored. Erika Moen’s weekly sex education comic is full of so many wonder...
Sex Gets Real 136: Gay man having straight sex & embarrassing vulva lips
Hello, from Salt Lake City! Thanks for all of the feedback on last week’s episode, post-election. So many of you had so many thoughtful and kind things to say. I appreciate it more than you know. This week, I field questions about sissif...
Sex Gets Real 135: Fighting oppression for sexual freedom
What a week. Between moving from DC to Salt Lake City and the U.S. election, I’ve had so many big emotions and huge feels. This week’s episode is a little different. It’s not everyday we have an election and a public response like the on...
Sex Gets Real 134: Mike Domitrz on dating, hookups, intimacy & consent
One of the perks of my job is getting a chance to read a lot of books about sex, sexuality, kink, and relationships. Some are terrific, some are OK, but it’s always fun to learn new things and take on new perspectives. I recently had a c...
Sex Gets Real 133: Whores of Yore on sex & porn through the ages
Grab a cup of tea, settle in, and prepare to be amazed. When Kate Lister, creator of Whores of Yore, agreed to come on the show, I did cartwheels. And it’s pretty evident why as you listen to this fascinating and hysterical episode all a...
Sex Gets Real 132: Allison Moon on queer identity and vulvas
Sign-up for my live, online anal 101 class! It’s October 26th and going to be amazing fun. Learn more and register now. When I think about my sex educator heroes, Allison Moon is one of the folks who has had a tremendous impact on the wa...
Sex Gets Real 131: Chlamydia, making lube, and Black men who are small
Sign-up for my live, online anal 101 class! It’s October 26th and going to be amazing fun. Learn more and register now. I’m sure you heard on last week’s show, but I’m reminding you again. I want YOUR voice as part of the new podcast int...
Sex Gets Real 130: Setting boundaries & tips for your first sex party
Ready to learn about anal pleasure, anal anatomy, and all the butt stuff? Join me for my online, live workshop, All About Anal. Visit dawnserra.com/butts to learn more and to sign-up. Marcia Baczynski, creator of the Good Girl Recovery P...
Sex Gets Real 129: Living with STIs, becoming a sex educator
This week is a little different from the normal show. First up, I field a few listener questions about finding out you may have herpes and hepatitis C after a partner cheated and how to become a sex educator. NRE isn’t only for relations...
Sex Gets Real 128: Erotica & desire with Rachel Kramer Bussel
Erotica has played a significant role in my own sexual exploration and development – from teaching me about my own desires and fantasies to understanding the depth of other people’s sexual landscapes. It’s a yummy and delicious space to ...
Sex Gets Real 127: Master, slave, Dominance, submission
Sinclair Sexsmith (you might know them as Sugarbutch) is here this week and we are talking ALL about kink, BDSM, and power dynamics. We take a look at Sinclair’s journey from submissive to Top to Dominant to Daddy and Master. What is it ...
Sex Gets Real 126: Open relationships, touch free orgasms, & Daddy Doms
In the DC area? I’m teaching kink, anal sex, thriving relationships, blowjobs, and more in October and November. Check out the details at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page. How does traditional consent edu...
Sex Gets Real 125: Rejection, rape fantasies, & painting consent violators as evil
In the DC area? Sign up for my workshops at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page. The October “From Curious to Kinky” is now enrolling. Sometimes I get intimidated or nervous about speaking with a guest. Other...
Sex Gets Real 124: Dylan is back this week!
In the DC area? Sign up for my workshops at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page. What can I even say about an episode that not only has Dylan, as the celesbian guest this week, but Dylan singing Rihanna? Yep...
Sex Gets Real 123: Emily Nagoski talking pleasure, joy, & science
In the DC area? Sign up for my workshops at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page. The October “From Curious to Kinky” isn’t up yet, so check back soon if you’ve got your eye on that. We all have those people t...
Sex Gets Real 122: Porn star & sex work advocate Conner Habib
Conner Habib generously agreed to jump on the phone with me at the last minute for this week’s episode, and our conversation is incredibly political and philosophical in ways you don’t often hear on the show. This is my second time inter...
Sex Gets Real 121: Erotic humiliation & masterful kink
There is something so delicious in talking about something that I have so little experience with. This week’s chat with Princess Kali is just that – a fun, playful talk about erotic humiliation, objectification, mastering kink, and being...
Sex Gets Real 120: Trans fetish, pegging, & being bad in bed
It’s just you and me this week. No guest. No interview. Just your questions and emails and me savoring every single one of them. We’re talking transsexual fetish sex, pegging, exploring sex with a partner who is a rape survivor, what it ...
ex Gets Real 119: Fetish wrestling, sex work, & fisting
Have you taken the poll on dawnserra.com yet telling me where in the world you are? I want to take this show on the road, but first, I need to know where you are! This week’s chat is one of my favorites. Andre Shakti is an absolute delig...
Sex Gets Real 118: Pole dancing & burlesque
Body positivity is something I constantly bring up on the show – not only because it’s an important part of my own story, but because I’m constantly getting questions from listeners about their own body shame and struggles. That’s why I ...
Sex Gets Real 117: Coming out & sacred intimacy
A listener question sent me on a quest to find some folks who could share their coming out stories, specifically cis men, and that quest led me to TT Baum. Several colleagues had the most amazing things to say about him, and when we fina...
Sex Gets Real 116: Orgasmquest
Trigger warning: talk of suicide From the early days of queer porn to managing sex positive feminist shops to getting internet famous for her epic orgasm quest, Crista Anne – the rainbowiest of rainbow people – joins the show this week. ...
Sex Gets Real 115: Lube & STI master class
Are you ready for a mastery level version of Sex Gets Real? Good. Because this week, Sarah Mueller from Smitten Kitten joins the show to share her research on lube, as well as her findings around herpes and STIs. Did you know some lubes ...
Sex Gets Real 114: Moving beyond sex positivity
JoEllen Notte is a sex educator powerhouse – she is revolutionizing the discussion about sex and depression, and also has a beautiful blog all about sex positivity, sex toys, and introversion. She recently reached out to me and asked if ...
Sex Gets Real 113: Erotic porn, fat sex, & problematic orgasms
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Sex Gets Real 112: Salad tossing and vegan BDSM
DID YOU HEAR THE NEWS? The podcast hit half a million downloads last week. So, as a great big thank you, I’m hosting a giveaway and the winner gets an njoy 11 worth $310. Check out the details here. Enter before June 12th! Also, because ...
Sex Gets Real 111: Submission
Masturbation May. Just a few days left to pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys. Treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. Showtime’s new late-night show, Submission, is all about BDSM. We follow Ashley, a woma...
Sex Gets Real 110: Circumcision, Girl Boners, & orgasms
Masturbation May. Have you gotten yours on yet? If not, pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys and treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. A few months ago, August McLaughlin invited me on her show, Girl Boner...
Sex Gets Real 109: Teens, gender, & parenting
Masturbation May. Have you gotten yours on yet? If not, pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys and treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. Nadine Thornhill is someone I admire greatly. Not only was she part of...
Sex Gets Real 108: Horrible oral from a clueless husband
Masturbation May is in full swing, so pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys and treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. This week I’m chatting with Victoria Rosa, and we dive into her experiences with tantra ...
Sex Gets Real 107: No orgasms from partnered sex
Prescott is back with more amazing advice and t-shirt ideas Comedian and 4-Play Baltimore host, Prescott Gaylord, joins us for a second HIQI. Listener Dannyle wants to know how to talk to the guy she’s dating about the fact that she can’...
Sex Gets Real 106: Is a prostate massage cheating?
From BDSM to broken penises, from virgin stories to rope bondage. It’s a packed week. Dawn has some new client openings for sex and relationship coaching. Want to check it out? Pop over to her coaching page and jump on it ASAP. This week...
Sex Gets Real 105: A virgin and her vibrator
An intimate chat with Dawn Serra. Just because. Dawn woke up and just wanted to have a little chat with you, because you’re amazing. There’s also a follow-up from a listener who wrote in recently about sex with vibrators. Plus, a 20-year...
Sex Gets Real 104: Anal myths & sad quickies
Anal leakage and quickie sex. Hold on to your horses. Sarah and Brian from YaySex.ca join in the fun this week. Since they recently started teaching an anal sex class, we start off with a question about anal sex myths. A listener who wan...
Sex Gets Real 103: In love BEFORE the sex
What do you do if you’re in love before you have sex? Comedian and 4-Play Baltimore host, Prescott Gaylord, joins us for the first of two HIQIs. First, we hear from Sophie about college hook-ups and how she worked all her FWBs on campus....
Sex Gets Real 102: Vibrators and virgins
Dirty Lola in the house Dawn has two announcements: First up, there is a free webinar on March 28th all about intimacy in relationships as you explore non-monogamy and opening an existing relationship up. Register here! Second, Dawn is a...
Sex Gets Real 101: Grossed out by BJs
Dylan’s official last episode and we talk blowjobs. If you have any parting messages for Dylan, just use the email down below to send them to Dawn and she’ll pass them along. On this Hit It and Quit It, we heard from a listener about som...
Sex Gets Real 100: HUGE ANNOUNCEMENT, threesomes, unicorns, and butt stuff
Did you hear the news? Wow. 100 episodes. 100 episodes of Sex Gets Real. What an amazing 2+ years it’s been. And it also seems appropriate that today is the day Dylan is announcing she’s leaving the show. As sad as Dawn is about the news...
Sex Gets Real 99: What if he’s terrible in bed?
CAN YOU TAKE THE PLEASURE?!?! It’s OK to change your mind, just like Dawn did at a recent BDSM class. A few listeners write in with stories and thanks. Plus, our listener Dirty Daughter has a very embarrassing story to share about how he...
Sex Gets Real 98: Should a virgin just do it?
New sex for us and sex for newbies. Dawn attended a BDSM conference for Valentine’s in Canada and tried several new things. Dylan scored a ton of presents. We have a backlog of listener emails, too. One listener wants to give his girlfri...
Sex Gets Real 97: Revealing clothes and help with a fantasy
That fits where? It all starts with an article about modesty and how women should expect to be treated poorly based on what they wear. You know Dawn can’t let that go. So, let’s put on our ranty pants and rage against the sexist notion t...
Sex Gets Real 96: The Womanizer and lesbian bed death
Unexpected orgasms and money for sex? Dawn got her hands on a new sex toy that’s a clitoral stimulator. She wants to give it a few more test drives, but offers her first impression. Then, we field listener questions on Bad Dragon dildos,...
Sex Gets Real 95: Practicing butt stuff
Butt stuff. It’s all about the butt. Over 3,500 people turned in for the Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com. Hundreds of reviews poured in and people loved it. If you want to check out the 30 interviews for yourself, you can st...
Sex Gets Real 94: Clown sex, porn, and shame
This is what happens when we have coffee and record first thing. Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn’s free 10-day online summit. It all starts January 28th, 2016, but if you see this after the ...
Sex Gets Real Episode 93: Gay coloring book & hand techniques
Gay coloring book and new hand sex techniques. Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn’s free 10-day online summit. It all starts January 28th, 2016, but if you see this after the event, you can sti...
Sex Gets Real 92: A wife blows up over a request for group sex
What do you do when you have that scary sex conversation and it blows up on you? Be sure to sign-up for the Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com. It’s free, and Dawn has 30 interviews for you to watch over the course of 10 days, ...
Sex Gets Real 91: Dawn’s HUGE announcement & trans bodies
Dawn has a huge announcement & trans stuff. Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn’s free 10-day online summit. She’s been slaving over it for 3 months, in secret, and you do NOT want to miss all o...
Sex Gets Real 90: New vibrator and getting caught giving a BJ
Happy New Year! It’s 2016! Well, Dylan is sick now, but we’re still recording because we missed you. Listeners write in about getting caught by their parents giving a blow job and getting picked up by lesbians at a conference. Dawn gets ...
Sex Gets Real: Holiday Special 2015
Quick erotica to tide us over Dawn just can’t take not recording, so to tide everyone over until the new year, she decided to read a little 3 minute erotica called “Pink” by Helena Black from Got a Minute? 60 Second Erotica. Our next epi...
Sex Gets Real 89: Butt sex and the REAL mess
Butts get real A listener wants us to be really real. Just how messy is anal play? She wants to try it, but she’s psyched herself out over the poop. That sends us off on a bender on all things butts – from hair to the doorbell technique ...
Sex Gets Real 88: Stoya rape & Bondage Bands
Straight guys having sexing with straight guys? We want to start the episode by saying that we stand in solidarity with Stoya after she named James Deen as her rapist. It takes tremendous courage to speak up, especially when the person y...
Sex Gets Real 87: STI stigma and poly feels
Sex. The scariest thing in the world? Dawn really loved this conversation about STI stigma. A recent article in The Atlantic (link below in the show notes) talked about some research findings that show people are terrified of sex. People...
Sex Gets Real 86: Self-sucking and vag superpowers for evil
Rhonda Rousey versus Dawn Serra. We’re finally back on track after losing some episodes a few weeks back. We revisit a listener email about self-sucking. Should he introduce his talent to his wife? The thought kind of turns him on. Then,...
Sex Gets Real 85: Paris attacks & trapped in a marriage
A kid on a bus does hand motions at Dawn that get her real worked up. Dawn & Dylan take a moment to talk about the Paris attacks, plus the lack of visibility on attacks in Beirut, Baghdad, and when the violence is against people of color...
Sex Gets Real 84: Hysterectomies & libido
Hysterectomies can impact sex, plus soapy blowjobs We have a full episode for you this week. From listener stories about fingering circles as a teenager to warnings against soapy blowjobs, our listeners are certainly adventurous. Plus, o...
Sex Gets Real 83: Newbie sex, swinger sex, & demo sex
Newbie sex, swinger sex, and demo sex. Dylan is back from Hawaii. Basically, it was really hot and there was boob sweat. Dawn attended Sex Down South where she saw a hand sex demo, did a masturbation circle, and generally had an amazing ...
Sex Gets Real 82: Consent & a special needs child
The accidental HIQI. Dawn had a shitty week. Not only was she battling Strep, but she fried her laptop and lost this week’s episode. So, we’re doing a HIQI in place of our longer episode and we’ll be back on track in 2 weeks. So, what ar...
Sex Gets Real 81: Sisters and sex
A new level of gross is reached on the show. So many listener stories and confessions – from a new gross word for spooge to a story about an orgy in high school, our listeners are adventurous to the max! And, one listener wants to know i...
Sex Gets Real 80: Amy Jo Goddard, Woman on Fire
Sex intelligence and erotic empowerment. Sex Down South is October 15-17th in Atlanta. Amy Jo Goddard will be one of the keynote speakers, and Dawn will be there. Join in the fun if you’re local. We are so excited to have Amy Jo Goddard ...
Sex Gets Real 79: A sub asks for help with her Dom
Sometimes you just have to ask. Listeners, if you’re in the DC area and you’re a sex educator of some sort, you HAVE to join Dawn at Tristan Taormino’s Sex Educator Bootcamp on October 18th. Our listeners get 25% off with code “deal25”. ...
Sex Gets Real 78: Women & porn, plus pink Viagra
Pegging, porn, and prostitution. A listener wrote in with a terrific message and mentioned pegging. Which sent us off on a bender about butt sex. Then, Dawn and Dylan talk about the new pink Viagra pill and why that name is so misleading...
Sex Gets Real 77: Pussies are beautiful and delicious
Georgia O’Keefe was on to something. Pussies are beautiful. Vulva are spectacular. And the problem is that too many vulva owners don’t realize this. After reading an article on the alarming demand for reconstructive surgery on labia, D...
Sex Gets Real 76: Disabilities and sex
If you live long enough, you’ll become part of the club. Robin Wilson-Beattie joins us this week to talk all about sex and disability. So often people with disabilities are seen as asexual, but that is so wrong. Robin shares her journey ...
Sex Gets Real 75: Water sports & sex positivity
What does sex positive mean to us? Dawn explores one of her super embarrassing fantasies. Sometimes taking the risk of sharing the scary stuff pays off. Oh Joy, Sex Toy recently did a comic on water sports, which gets us talk about peein...
Sex Gets Real 74: Sacred intimate (internal massage)
Camping, public nudity, face licking, and more. This episode is definitely a rainbow of all the things. We’ve got some listener emails talking about the Hitachi Magic Wand, face licking, and a really deep question about a spouse who clai...
Sex Gets Real 73: Small penis issues? We get called out.
A listener calls us out. Small penises…they’re the butt of many jokes, the catch in many commercials, and even featured on SNL as a reason to kill yourself. So, when a listener writes in to call us out that small penises really are that ...
Sex Gets Real 72: Feminista Jones
It’s about to get super fierce and very real. We are so excited to have the powerful, the fabulous, the game-changing Feminista Jones on with us this week. We talk about sex-positive feminism, BDSM, Dom/sub dynamics, how the term vanilla...
Sex Gets Real 71: Talking about sex with 4 year olds?
What happens when everyone learns about sex their whole lives? A listener writes back about their group sex situation. Dawn experiences a lovely display of empathy. Wouldn’t it be amazing if we were allowed to have bad days? Plus, the Ne...
Sex Gets Real 70: Erogenous zones & pegging famous guys
From famous men who have been pegged to erogenous zones and beyond, it’s a packed show. This week is packed full of good random stuff. We talk about a fun article pontificating which famous fictional men have been pegged. Then we explore...
Sex Gets Real 69: Mutual masturbation
Did someone say 69? Yes! It’s our 69th episode! Two listeners write in with sexy stories. Plus, there’s a new Johns Hopkins study showing men who are confident and empathetic (sensitive) have more satisfying sex. Boom! And of course, we ...
Sex Gets Real 68: Kate McCombs on sex and communication
Kate McCombs on all things sex and communication. We have the amazing Kate McCombs on the show today. Sex and communication are her bread and butter. She is incredibly skilled at helping people develop communication skills in their relat...
Sex Gets Real 67: Hitachi Magic Wand and swinging vs poly
A Hitachi Magic Wand story plus swinging vs. poly. Interested in attending Dawn’s live Q&A all about relationships on Thursday, July 16th? Pop on over and sign-up. She’d love to have some listeners in the audience. Dawn got herself a new...
Sex Gets Real 66: A selfish wife, a bad lover, and the Wachowskis
Listener questions galore! Interested in attending Dawn’s live Q&A all about relationships on Thursday, July 16th? Pop on over and sign-up. She’d love to have some listeners in the audience. Wow, it’s a great week for listener questions....
Sex Gets Real 65: What would your sex super power be?
Sexual super powers. Go! Dylan is back. This makes us happy. So, a question came up about sexual super powers. Dawn and Dylan start imagining all the things you could do if you had a sex super power. What would yours be? In the DC area i...
Sex Gets Real 64: Gay Pride
Rainbows and bare ass and all things gay. It was gay pride in DC last weekend, so we hit the street and asked folks questions at the parade. From toes to scat play, strangers shared all kinds of stuff with us. Plus, a listener writes in ...
Sex Gets Real 63: Exhibitionism while you travel
Exhibitionism – Dawn’s giving it a go. On a recent trip to Vancouver, Dawn tried on being an exhibitionist – from the beach to her high rise condo in downtown, she gave that city a show. Dylan isn’t quite so brave, but who knows? Maybe a...
Sex Gets Real 62: Soggy waffles and Tinder
We learn what a soggy waffle is, discuss sex toy vending machines, and rage on Tinder. In the DC area? Then join Dawn’s new meetup: Relationship Communication Bootcamp. The first event is June 11th and you can sign-up now! Each month we’...
Sex Gets Real 61: Break-ups done wrong
All the ways NOT to break up with someone. If you’re in the DC area, join Dawn for her relationship communication bootcamp on June 11th. Check it out here. You can also subscribe to the meetup to get all announcements. See you there! A n...
Sex Gets Real 60: Ball stretching, monogamy, & pegging
From buying sex services to menstrual cups to drag kings and more, it’s a wild ride here at Sex Gets Real this week. In the DC area? Then join Dawn’s new meetup: Relationship Communication Bootcamp. The first event is June 11th and you c...
Sex Gets Real 59: Queer Porn Film Festival
Dawn’s mind gets blown in the best possible way. If you’re in the DC area, join Dawn for her relationship communication bootcamp on June 11th. Check it out here. The Queer Porn Film Festival was beyond rad. Films with trans women, trans ...
Sex Gets Real 58: Cooper Beckett on swinging, poly, and his new book
Cooper Beckett and swinging! In the DC area? Then join Dawn’s new meetup: Relationship Communication Bootcamp. The first event is June 11th and you can sign-up now! Each month we’ll get together and practice fun, easy techniques for lear...
Sex Gets Real 57: Teen sex and changing how we teach it
Teens and sex – we can do better Dawn is excited by some of the developments in the sex toy store she is developing. If you want to get updates and behind the scenes news, or if you want to help make it awesome by participating in the cr...
Sex Gets Real 56: Vulva puppet, pubic hair, and Game of Thrones
Vulva puppet, hair down there, masturbation, and porn. First up, we are interviewing Cooper Beckett from Life on the Swingset, so if you have questions for him, get those to us by Thursday, April 30th. This episode is a collection of all...
Sex Gets Real 55: Dawn attends a play party
A sensuality workshop and play party? Dawn’s been busy. A few weeks ago, Dawn attended CatalystCon East. While the conference was amazing and deserves it’s own episode, that same weekend she also attended a pink puja (or a sensuality wor...
Sex Gets Real 54: Joan Price and senior sex
Sex as we age – there’s so much to learn! Joan Price is on the air with us today and she is amazing. We are talking about seniors (folks over 50) and sex. What changes in our 50s, 60, 70s, and beyond when it comes to sex? How does ageism...
Sex Gets Real 53: Lesbian sex positions
Favorite lesbian sex positions This episode is brought to you by Yes Please, More Please – the art of seduction through food. Don’t miss their Mexican Aphrodisiac dinner in Washington, DC on April 4, 2015. Scissoring? Mutual masturbation...
Sex Gets Real 52: Penis size, listener advice, and confessions
From penis size (again) to pinball machines, from jealousy to one-hit wonder orgasms – plus a special guest This episode is brought to you by Yes Please, More Please – the art of seduction through food. Don’t miss their Mexican Aphrodisi...
Sex Gets Real 51: Your penis size is fine, guys
When we look at Google data about sex, what does it tell us? This episode is brought to you by Yes Please, More Please – the art of seduction through food. Don’t miss their Mexican Aphrodisiac dinner in Washington, DC on April 4, 2015. W...
Sex Gets Real 50: Yoni egg failures and jealousy
It’s all about yoni eggs and jealousy and outdoor sex, to name a few. This episode is brought to you by Yes Please, More Please – the art of seduction through food. Don’t miss their Mexican Aphrodisiac dinner in Washington, DC on April 4...
Sex Gets Real 49: When he’s too big to fit
Guys, stop worrying about your dick being too small. You should be happy you aren’t too big! A listener has sweet, caring boyfriend. There’s only one problem – his dick is too big and she can’t take it all. How big is too big? And what c...
Sex Gets Real 48: SheBop’s sex educator, AJ
Sex toy education. It’s happening. Here at Sex Gets Real, we adore She Bop and we’ve talked about it many times on the podcast. She Bop is a female-friendly sex boutique that is full of body safe products, and they host a plethora of ama...
Sex Gets Real 47: Sex toy shopping horror story
Dylan tells a horrifying story of sex toy shopping gone wrong When Dylan’s friends go to a sex toy store to find a toy for pegging, things go south very quickly. What was supposed to be a fun and sexy bonding experience turned into a cre...
Sex Gets Real 46: A relationship therapist joins us
Gina Senarighi joins us for a compelling interview about relationship counseling and the keys to making relationships work in the long run Holy crap. We have the fabulous and amazing Gina Senarighi from Amplify Happiness Now and Uncommon...
Sex Gets Real 45: Virgins
Would you sleep with a virgin? And what does virgin even mean? But first, a celebration… Congratulations to Heavy B for winning our one-year anniversary giveaway! Dawn and Dylan will be personalizing a message to you and sending it over ...
Sex Gets Real 44: Best of our first year
ONE YEAR. BEST OF. BOOM. First, make sure you sign up for the Healthy, Authentic Relationship Summit that is on February 12th and 13th. It’s free and we have two days’ worth of experts weighing in on all things relationship. Dawn’s talk ...
Sex Gets Real 43: Naked gay men & loads of leather
We go back to Mid Atlantic Leather, talk disco muffs, and discover the Vagankle Dawn and Dylan are kicking off their one-year anniversary with a KICK-ASS giveaway. Check out the Sex Gets Real Facebook page to enter and for details or ent...
Sex Gets Real 42: BDSM classes, dildo etiquette, and porn trends
Dildo etiquette, cock confidence, and a sweepstakes to win a prize in celebration of our one-year anniversary! Dylan talks about being a total sexist at a motorcycle show. A listener wants to know where to go for classes on sex and BDSM....
Sex Gets Real 41: How Dawn and Dylan Met
We birthed a sex podcast. Here’s how it came to be. It all started with Dawn being a total stalker at a lesbian club… No seriously, it did. That’s just the beginning. And then of course, with a few glasses of champagne in her, Dylan goes...
Sex Gets Real 40: Fisting, pegging, NRE
On this week’s episode we’ve got NRE pitfalls, a couple seeks a third, fisting, and more Wow! Happy New Year to all of you. You sent us so many great stories and questions, we filled up an entire hour this week! It all starts with a list...
Sex Gets Real 39: Taste Test
It’s time for a taste test of sex products. It’s awful. That is all. We did it for you and we may die of sex poisoning because of it. Our favorites were the flavor waves condoms by ONE and the caramel body paint by Bijoux. As for the res...
Sex Gets Real 38: Asexuality spectrum and more confessions
Let’s explore the asexuality spectrum while talking about 69 and TinderNightmares Listener stories and emails galore. And we know, we know…some of you love 69. Since apparently we aren’t gifted in the same way some of you are, we hope yo...
Sex Gets Real 37: Dawn rants on bad sex advice
Stories about sex are awesome. Advice about sex that shames? Not so much. You know that we are all about everyone living their sexual lives in whatever way makes them happy. We celebrate all sorts of sexual orientations and sexual fantas...
Sex Gets Real 36: Sadism and consent
Pain, fear, consent, rape, and all things edgy. Not for the faint of heart. Ready for an edgy episode? Dawn and Dylan deliver with this practical and informative interview with BDSM educator and sadist Frozen Meursault. FM fields questio...
Sex Gets Real 35: Public sex brainstorming
Hmmm…now where can these kinky exhibitionists have sex? Dawn and Dylan help a listener come up with new places to engage in public sex with his wife. Also, Dawn discovers a phrase for man cum that turns her stomach. And what happens when...
Sex Gets Real 34: Erotica
An erotica expert on writing and reading sexy scenes Dawn and Dylan interview erotica writer, narrator, editor, and all-round expert Rose Caraway from The Kiss Me Quicks. You can check out her podcast on iTunes here. Rose answers some gr...
Sex Gets Real 33: Strap-on harness shopping
We never get sick of talking about strap-ons and pegging A listener wants to know what kind of harness his wife should get if he wants to get pegged. Plus, how can she get clit stimulation when she’s fucking him? Dawn’s favorite harness ...
Sex Gets Real 32: Listeners confess and bad kissing
Dawn is scarred, listeners fuss at us over 69ing, and a new vibrator is in the family A pro Domme weighs in on our advice about fetishes. A sassy listener says she adores 69 (and makes it clear she has a very lucky husband). And, what ha...
Sex Gets Real 31: Scarring TSA
With suitcases full of sex toys, we’re surprised they her back in On a recent trip to Toronto, Dawn packed most of her kinky arsenal – from dildos to a flogger, from a dragon tongue whip to her strap-on harness. Find out what happens whe...
Sex Gets Real 30: Group sex
Group sex and barbies. Just a normal day around Sex Gets Real headquarters. IPCookieMonster, blogger at SlutPhD.com, joins us in the studio for all things threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes. From tips for avoiding mediocre group sex to...
Sex Gets Real 29: Hashing
Ssshhhhhh. We’re talking secret identities and sex and a thing called hashing Hashing. Never heard of it? That’s probably because it’s a super secret drinking society for people with a running problem. Secret identities. Copious amounts ...
Sex Gets Real 28: Double BJs and double penetration
Double blow jobs, cheating accusations, and anal sex explorations A listener wants to know if she should make her fantasy of giving her boyfriend a double blow job with her best friend into reality. Dylan gets a new toy called the G Spot...
Sex Gets Real 27: Tantra and sacred sexuality
Sacred sexuality and tantra – yummy A listener wants to know how to get started with tantra, so Dawn and Dylan discuss Barbara Carrellas’ “Urban Tantra” which is a great introduction and inclusive look at tantra. Yes, you can do it if yo...
Sex Gets Real 26: 69 is the worst
We love listener questions and today is about feet and making love and new vibrators and more Who actually likes scissoring? A listener claims it’s worse than 69. But we wonder…is that even possible? A boyfriend just wants to massage his...
Sex Gets Real 25: Urethra and vajayjays and girl parts, oh my
It’s time to get personal with that clit and vulva and urethra Dylan and her wife break out the mirrors and flashlights to look at their vulvas, urethras, and more. Plus, how can you tell when someone is fully aroused just by looking at ...
Sex Gets Real 24: Safe sex, people. It’s a thing.
Swollen labia, unsafe sex, and “soaking” Dawn has a small issue crop up with her labia (did you know about the Bartholin gland?). Dylan fills us in on what “soaking” is. A listener wants to know the definition of sex. Plus, we see some v...
Sex Gets Real 23: Strippers in Vegas
Having fun with strippers – because they’re sassy and playful On the latest episode of Hit It and Quit It, Dylan wants to hear about Dawn’s experiences with strippers in Las Vegas. It’s about to get hot in here. But, Dawn isn’t the only ...
Sex Gets Real 22: Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit recap
Sex and conferences and sex and grooming failures and more sex To prepare for her lover coming into town, Dawn has an ass wax fail. Then, so much sex – female condoms, pegging, whipping, flogging, and more. Plus, Nina Hartley, Buck Angel...
Sex Gets Real 21: Threesomes and Jealousy
We love listeners who call us with awesome stories about sex! A listener gives us a juicy threesome confession. Dawn talks about threesomes and unexpected jealousy. Hey, it happens to the best of us! You know we love hearing from you, so...
Sex Gets Real 20: NRE junkies and butt stuff
Well, that’s one way to make an impression. Dawn’s got a pissy pussy, plus some serious ass pain. Find out about a guy who tried to smuggle an entire toolbox in his ass into a prison. Plus, listener questions on what’s the difference bet...
Sex Gets Real 19: K-Drama and kGoal
Today’s letter is ‘K’! Dylan marvels over “pet guys” from Korean soap operas. Basically, submissive men who are shamed by what they do. Plus, Dawn talks about a new pussy exerciser called kGoal. it’s like a Fit Bit for your girl parts. W...
Sex Gets Real 18: We go to a dungeon party
Dawn and Dylan go to a sex & play party in DC and spill the beans on everything that happened (hints: loads and loads of sex). A woman wants to know if texting an old boyfriend is cheating. Plus, what do you do if your girlfriends...
Sex Gets Real 17: Violet Wands
We’re buzzing with chatter about sex with electricity. Electricity in the bedroom? Dawn attends a Black Rose class on violet wands and using electricity in the bedroom. Dylan boycotts. Plus, what not to do with electricity and how to sca...
Sex Gets Real 16: Kait Scalisi on sex and illness
Have you ever thought about sex after a chronic illness? We hadn’t either. Kait Scalisi of Passion by Kait joins Dawn and Dylan to talk about sex when you or a loved one are dealing with chronic illness. Plus, self-care to feel sexy, lub...
Sex Gets Real 15: Fetishes and NRE
Fetish – we think that word is overused and explore it a little bit. Can New Relationship Energy be a fetish? What is a fetish, anyway? Plus, Dawn and Dylan talk about getting busted playing doctor as kids. Listen and subscribe to Sex Ge...
Sex Gets Real 14: Multiple lovers and facials
Open relationships are just the beginning of this wild episode Dawn and Dylan discuss whether a listener should tell her lovers about each other, dig into whether cum facials are degrading and how to get a girlfriend to be more open to t...
Sex Gets Real 13: Craigslist and Anal
Our first Hit It and Quit It, plus Dylan’s butt We’ve gone WEEKLY!!! In this short 15-minute episode, hear about Dawn’s craigslist experience that went from finding male models to watching two dudes fuck. Plus, Dylan gets a new butt plug...
Sex Gets Real 12: G spots, BJs, and Dominatrix stuff
Squirting and blow jobs and being a Domme. Because why not? Dawn and Dylan answer a listener question about obligatory blowjobs. Plus, hear about the g-spot and female ejaculation class Dawn attended in Portland, what it’s like to be a f...
Sex Gets Real 11: Horny highs
Dawn and Dylan share some new adventures in their own bedrooms, plus caning (ouch!) Have you ever had a horny high? Dawn discovers a new way to cum (anal!) while Dylan and her wife have a guest in the bedroom. Plus, Dawn’s review of a ca...
Sex Gets Real 10: Porn star Lance Hart joins us
Porn star Lance Hart – one of the best interviews we’ve ever done Dawn and Dylan talk to the gorgeous and talented Lance Hart, a fetish porn star and producer. He tells us all the dirty secrets behind filming porn, getting started in peg...
Sex Gets Real 9: Don’t go crazy when you break up, please
Ending things is never easy, but here’s what not to do Dawn and Dylan talk about closure and going crazy post break up. Plus, listeners ask how to overcome exhaustion, why does sex have to be so icky, and what to do if you get fat to pre...
Sex Gets Real 8: Rejection. Ouch.
Don’t get butthurt when someone tells you no. Do get excited to find some play partners. Dawn and Dylan dive into the sting of being rejected. Plus, how does a bi-curious woman find ladies to hook-up with? Is female ejaculation real? And...
Sex Gets Real 7: Giving amazing blowjobs
It’s all about the enthusiasm, people. Dawn and Dylan lay out how to give amazing blowjobs, the practicalities of navigating an open marriage (where? and how? and when?), and how to get started in kink. Plus, Dawn talks about her butt pl...
Sex Gets Real 6: Consent and responsible group sex
Consent is the foundation upon which ALL sex and kink are built. No shortcuts. Or you’re an asshole. Dawn and Dylan discuss what to do if you cross a line or violate someone’s consent. Also, tips on how to let go during sex and how to ha...
Sex Gets Real 5: Strap on a bib, Dylan is getting messy
You will never look at a glazed donut the same way again. Dawn and Dylan tackle the delicate art of how to eat pussy like a champ (hint: it involves a bib). Plus, barebacking in the gay community, cock rings, and the worst/best first dat...
Sex Gets Real 4: BDSM Conference
Classes on needles and pain processing and rape fantasies and negotiation…it was like heaven. Dawn and Dylan hit up the Dark Odyssey BDSM conference. Hear about all things kinky – from Fist-a-Palooza to orgies to rape play and so much mo...
Sex Gets Real 3: Strapping it on
How to have a bloody good time. And strap-on sex. Dawn and Dylan take on strap on sex, playing during your period, sex work, and whether a man watching porn without having sex with his partner is a major problem or not. Plus, we want you...
Sex Gets Real 2: Introducing Kink
Communication is the key to every kind of relationship. Get brave and ask. Find out how to talk to a friend in an open relationship about how she does it. What if you want to introduce kink to a super vanilla partner? Plus, the down-low ...
Sex Gets Real 1: Mid Atlantic Leather conference
It smells like man and cow, and it’s hot as hell. Dawn & Dylan hit the Mid Atlantic Leather conference in Washington, DC. Ready for a complete, and VERY kinky, run down of everything we saw? Let’s talk sadism, spanking, leather, dildos, ...