Sex Gets Real Podcast

Welcome to Sex Gets Real, a podcast about sex, pleasure, relationships, and body liberation.

 

Sex Gets Real Podcast

A weekly podcast dedicated to helping you deepen your curiosity around sex, relationships, bodies, and life.

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In each episode, I talk with inspiring guests, answer your questions, and offer commentary on sexuality, kink, relationships, body image, emotional intelligence, and all of the things that help us feel more connected to our pleasure and aliveness. This podcast is a compassionate place to ask new questions and to unpack the harm done by our sex negative, body-shaming culture.
Launched in January 2014, Sex Gets Real has been downloaded over 6 million times. Explore the most recent episodes below, and be sure to subscribe on iTunes (or your favorite podcasting app) so you never miss an episode! Want to send me a question? Hop over to the contact page. I’d love to hear from you!
  • A hero

    Dawn is really doing the work to make this world a better place. It’s so rare to hear people talk like she does with the guests, and offering little steps people can take to truly make a difference in how they interact with other humans. This show gives me hope for humanity!

    – wuhhappen

  • Insightful and empowering

    I feel completely at home here – bowled over by brilliant advice and nourishing conversations.

    The great content & advice Dawn and her incredible guests provide, combined with the relatable way in which they deliver it had me hooked from the very first listen. Sex Gets Real is a must listen for anyone interested in exploring their own sexual evolution & development. Keep up the incredible work Dawn! 🙏

    – J. Barshop

  • Open minded loveliness!

    I absolutely LOVE this podcast! Dawn responds to listener questions with so much compassion and kindness. I love that loaded/taboo topics like sex can be discussed matter-of-factly. I have learned so much listening to this, and it has significantly expanded my world view! Sex positivity is essential to reducing shame and improving public health and this podcast is a great way to bring it to the public!

    – Meatbags14

  • One of the best podcasts out there

    Dawn Serra speaks about sex, relationships, kinks and fetishes, and being kind to yourself in a way that is approachable and easy to listen to. I find it to be a very helpful and educational podcast, and there is much to learn here. The Explore More Summit she’s worked so hard to produce the last couple of years is one of the most life changing, amazing, educational collections of talks out there, and really helps a person learn how to navigate relationships of any kind with people from many walks of life. Dawn Serra’s podcasts are amazing and fascinating. Anyone interested in becoming more capable of effective communication with their partners, or becoming more kind to themselves, should consider listening to this!

    – faerynsaga

Recent Episodes

April 19, 2020

301: Sex and depression with JoEllen Notte

JoEllen Notte is here to help us explore depression, relationships, and how depression and mental health can impact sex and desire, plus connecting during a pandemic....

April 12, 2020

300: Jaclyn Friedman on believing women

Jaclyn Friedman is here to talk about her new book, "Believe Me". We talk patriarchy, rape culture, ways we punish women, & what it means to believe women....

February 16, 2020

294: Making erotic films with Inka Winter

Inka Winter, founder of ForPlay Films, joins us to talk about creating porn, the importance of sex education, & why paying for your porn is so important....

January 12, 2020

290: Wheelchair sex and being scared of sex

How do you have sex with someone in a wheelchair? What if you're in eating disorder recovery and sex scares you? What if you're queer & scared of sex, too?...

October 20, 2019

281: Sexy pics of your ex, herpes & pleasure

Why coming forward about sexual assault doesn't "ruin" lives, what to do when you're deeply ashamed of masturbation, & does loving penises make a straight man gay?...

October 6, 2019

280: Nurturance culture with Nora Samaran

Explore nurturance culture, rape culture, accountability, and relational responsibility with Nora Samaran and Dawn Serra as we dive into Nora's new book....

September 8, 2019

277: Cuckqueaning and the dangers of advice

What is cuckqueaning? The dangers of giving advice. Are ACA meetings for me? How do I explore fantasies if I have trauma? Creating community accountability....

July 21, 2019

Sex Gets Real 270: Chris Maxwell Rose on touch and the erotic

LAST CALL The July cohort of Power in Pleasure starts July 21st, so this is the final DAY to register before it closes. You deserve pleasure. You deserve to honor your hunger. Your power is tied to your pleasure. Explore with us and lear...

January 27, 2019

Sex Gets Real 247: adrienne maree brown on pleasure activism

Before we get started there are three HUGE things: This episode is generously brought to you by LOLA. Listeners get 40% off their subscription at mylola.com using discount code SGR. Have organic cotton pads, tampons, wipes, and even cond...

November 18, 2018

Sex Gets Real 238: Birth, postpartum, and your inner jaguar

If you’ve been thinking about working with a coach around your desire, relationship, body, or shame, I am now accepting new clients and my rates are increasing January 2019. Learn more at dawnserra.com/work-with-me. The Fourth Trimester ...

August 26, 2018

Sex Gets Real 226: Period sex, who we find sexy, and #NotAllMen

Are you ready to sign up for Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop? Grab your spot today for just $37. Ten lessons, ten worksheets, a lifetime of shifting how you feel about boundaries. What if period sex is awful? How can we fin...

August 12, 2018

Sex Gets Real 224: Entering the friendzone & male submission

Are you ready to sign up for Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop? Grab your spot today for just $37. Ten lessons, ten worksheets, a lifetime of shifting how you feel about boundaries. What even is the friendzone, how can a man ...

July 15, 2018

Sex Gets Real 220: Body trust. Trans sex woes. Self-harm scars.

Are you ready to sign up for Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop? Grab your spot today for just $37. Ten lessons, ten worksheets, a lifetime of shifting how you feel about boundaries. A passionate lover. Body trust. Trans sex w...

April 29, 2018

Sex Gets Real 211: Amy Jo Goddard on sex, power, & leadership

SIGN UP NOW! Explore More Summit 2018 is happening now. It ends May 2nd, so grab your all-access pass for free before it’s too late. exploremoresummit.com. What is changing in the wake of the #MeToo movement? How do we talk about sex and...

December 24, 2017

Sex Gets Real 193: JoEllen Notte on the best of 2017

If you’re looking for a last minute holiday gift or you want to start your 2018 with a bang, don’t forget you can grab my online on-demand workshops now! From porn to anal, from games to relationship charters, you’ll find all sorts of fu...

December 10, 2017

Sex Gets Real 191: Face sitting, cheating, & hating your body

My porn workshop, Hands Down: A Workshop on How Porn Can Heal, Connect, and Be Ethical, is now streaming. Check out the details at dawnserra.com/porn. Let’s talk about the porn! Here’s that funny article I was giggling over called, “20 T...

November 26, 2017

Sex Gets Real 189: Urban Tantra with Barbara Carrellas

I am so excited. CrashPad Series is sponsoring the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition AND they sent me an exclusive audio clip of April Flores and Milcah filming a recent scene. You can hear the juicy details in the show this week. HEA...

November 19, 2017

Sex Gets Real 188: Trust after betrayal, fat sex, safer sex

Two things! Sign-up for the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition at exploremoresummit.com. It’s free and kicks off December 4th. Prepare to be challenged and cracked open. My porn workshop, Hands Down: A Workshop on How Porn Can Heal, Con...

November 12, 2017

Sex Gets Real 187: Getting Unscrewed with Jaclyn Friedman

Don’t forget, the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition kicks off December 4th and it’s totally free. We’ll spend 5 days going super deep into body politics, self acceptance, fat activism, diet culture, weight stigma, and shedding body sha...

October 1, 2017

Sex Gets Real 181: Erotic art and photography with Maggie West

An updated Patreon you say? Why yes. Yes it is. Check out the sweet new rewards. For the past few months, one of my favorite things on Instagram has been Maggie West’s gorgeous nude photo series for Amber Rose’s Slut Walk. The colors, th...

September 10, 2017

Sex Gets Real 178: Yes, I have herpes with Dr. Sheila Loanzon

What happens when you get a herpes diagnosis? And more importantly, what happens if you begin hiding that you have herpes? Dr. Sheila Loanzon, an OBGYN who gives amazing PAP smears, is here to talk about her very personal story and new b...

September 3, 2017

Sex Gets Real 177: Thriving in sex work with Lola Davina

How can you thrive as a sex worker, navigating the fact that you have no real safety while also performing erotic fantasies and sex at the same time? How can you care for yourself as clients bring in their pain, shame, and fear and expec...

July 23, 2017

Sex Gets Real 171: Queer and trans healthcare with Zena Sharman

A new episode? Yep! And, if you love the show, you can support it on Patreon. Folks who support at the $3 level and above get weekly bonus content that you can’t find anywhere else. Of course, you can support the show at any level from $...

July 16, 2017

Sex Gets Real 170: Diary of a Rope Slut with Emily Bingham

I know tons of you are either kink lovers or kink curious, so I have a feeling you’re going to enjoy this chat with rope expert and rope love Emily Bingham. She recently published an erotic memoir all about her kinky, erotic bondage adve...

May 28, 2017

Sex Gets Real 163: Dylan on priest fetishes and oral sex

This week’s episode is brought to you by Talkspace. Listeners get $30 off their first month of therapy with coupon code SGR, so check it out and spread the word to support the show. It’s HERE! My recent chat with Dylan. Patreon supporter...

May 21, 2017

Sex Gets Real 162: Carol Sanger and About Abortion

This week’s episode is brought to you by Talkspace. Listeners get $30 off their first month of therapy with coupon code SGR, so check it out and spread the word to support the show. This week’s episode is very special to me. I want to th...

May 7, 2017

Sex Gets Real 160: Andre Shakti on polyamory and non-monogamy

This week’s episode is brought to you by Talkspace. And listeners get $30 off their first month of therapy with coupon code SGR, so check it out and spread the word to support the show. Patreon supporters! Pop over to patreon.com/sgrpod...

April 23, 2017

Sex Gets Real 158: Messy sex, dating obsessed, & jealousy

Did you hear? For just $3 per month Patreon supporters get weekly bonus content you can’t find anywhere else. Your support means so much! Also, don’t forget to send in your sex confessions! May’s theme is FOOD. I created a guidelines ...

January 29, 2017

Sex Gets Real 146: Female genital mutilation by Mariya Karimjee

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. I made a Patreon for the show! YAY. If you want to support the show, check it out. There’s even a $1 option. Sometimes, you luck into an incredible opportunity. That h...

November 27, 2016

Sex Gets Real 137: Erika Moen from Oh Joy Sex Toy is here!

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Alex was the first person to ever share an Oh Joy Sex Toy comic with me. I was immediately enamored. Erika Moen’s weekly sex education comic is full of so many wonder...

November 13, 2016

Sex Gets Real 135: Fighting oppression for sexual freedom

What a week. Between moving from DC to Salt Lake City and the U.S. election, I’ve had so many big emotions and huge feels. This week’s episode is a little different. It’s not everyday we have an election and a public response like the on...

October 30, 2016

Sex Gets Real 133: Whores of Yore on sex & porn through the ages

Grab a cup of tea, settle in, and prepare to be amazed. When Kate Lister, creator of Whores of Yore, agreed to come on the show, I did cartwheels. And it’s pretty evident why as you listen to this fascinating and hysterical episode all a...

October 23, 2016

Sex Gets Real 132: Allison Moon on queer identity and vulvas

Sign-up for my live, online anal 101 class! It’s October 26th and going to be amazing fun. Learn more and register now. When I think about my sex educator heroes, Allison Moon is one of the folks who has had a tremendous impact on the wa...

October 2, 2016

Sex Gets Real 129: Living with STIs, becoming a sex educator

This week is a little different from the normal show. First up, I field a few listener questions about finding out you may have herpes and hepatitis C after a partner cheated and how to become a sex educator. NRE isn’t only for relations...

September 25, 2016

Sex Gets Real 128: Erotica & desire with Rachel Kramer Bussel

Erotica has played a significant role in my own sexual exploration and development – from teaching me about my own desires and fantasies to understanding the depth of other people’s sexual landscapes. It’s a yummy and delicious space to ...

September 18, 2016

Sex Gets Real 127: Master, slave, Dominance, submission

Sinclair Sexsmith (you might know them as Sugarbutch) is here this week and we are talking ALL about kink, BDSM, and power dynamics. We take a look at Sinclair’s journey from submissive to Top to Dominant to Daddy and Master. What is it ...

August 28, 2016

Sex Gets Real 124: Dylan is back this week!

In the DC area? Sign up for my workshops at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page.  What can I even say about an episode that not only has Dylan, as the celesbian guest this week, but Dylan singing Rihanna? Yep...

August 21, 2016

Sex Gets Real 123: Emily Nagoski talking pleasure, joy, & science

In the DC area? Sign up for my workshops at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page. The October “From Curious to Kinky” isn’t up yet, so check back soon if you’ve got your eye on that. We all have those people t...

August 14, 2016

Sex Gets Real 122: Porn star & sex work advocate Conner Habib

Conner Habib generously agreed to jump on the phone with me at the last minute for this week’s episode, and our conversation is incredibly political and philosophical in ways you don’t often hear on the show. This is my second time inter...

August 7, 2016

Sex Gets Real 121: Erotic humiliation & masterful kink

There is something so delicious in talking about something that I have so little experience with. This week’s chat with Princess Kali is just that – a fun, playful talk about erotic humiliation, objectification, mastering kink, and being...

July 31, 2016

Sex Gets Real 120: Trans fetish, pegging, & being bad in bed

It’s just you and me this week. No guest. No interview. Just your questions and emails and me savoring every single one of them. We’re talking transsexual fetish sex, pegging, exploring sex with a partner who is a rape survivor, what it ...

July 24, 2016

ex Gets Real 119: Fetish wrestling, sex work, & fisting

Have you taken the poll on dawnserra.com yet telling me where in the world you are? I want to take this show on the road, but first, I need to know where you are! This week’s chat is one of my favorites. Andre Shakti is an absolute delig...

July 17, 2016

Sex Gets Real 118: Pole dancing & burlesque

Body positivity is something I constantly bring up on the show – not only because it’s an important part of my own story, but because I’m constantly getting questions from listeners about their own body shame and struggles. That’s why I ...

July 10, 2016

Sex Gets Real 117: Coming out & sacred intimacy

A listener question sent me on a quest to find some folks who could share their coming out stories, specifically cis men, and that quest led me to TT Baum. Several colleagues had the most amazing things to say about him, and when we fina...

July 3, 2016

Sex Gets Real 116: Orgasmquest

Trigger warning: talk of suicide From the early days of queer porn to managing sex positive feminist shops to getting internet famous for her epic orgasm quest, Crista Anne – the rainbowiest of rainbow people – joins the show this week. ...

June 26, 2016

Sex Gets Real 115: Lube & STI master class

Are you ready for a mastery level version of Sex Gets Real? Good. Because this week, Sarah Mueller from Smitten Kitten joins the show to share her research on lube, as well as her findings around herpes and STIs. Did you know some lubes ...

June 19, 2016

Sex Gets Real 114: Moving beyond sex positivity

JoEllen Notte is a sex educator powerhouse – she is revolutionizing the discussion about sex and depression, and also has a beautiful blog all about sex positivity, sex toys, and introversion. She recently reached out to me and asked if ...

June 12, 2016

Sex Gets Real 113: Erotic porn, fat sex, & problematic orgasms

If you’re listening to this on June 12th, 2016, you still have time to enter the celebration giveaway! The winner gets an njoy 11 worth $310. Check out the details here. Giveaway closes at 11:30pm ET in the U.S. 6/12/2016. Oh, and be sur...

June 5, 2016

Sex Gets Real 112: Salad tossing and vegan BDSM

DID YOU HEAR THE NEWS? The podcast hit half a million downloads last week. So, as a great big thank you, I’m hosting a giveaway and the winner gets an njoy 11 worth $310. Check out the details here. Enter before June 12th! Also, because ...

May 29, 2016

Sex Gets Real 111: Submission

Masturbation May. Just a few days left to pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys. Treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. Showtime’s new late-night show, Submission, is all about BDSM. We follow Ashley, a woma...

May 22, 2016

Sex Gets Real 110: Circumcision, Girl Boners, & orgasms

Masturbation May. Have you gotten yours on yet? If not, pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys and treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. A few months ago, August McLaughlin invited me on her show, Girl Boner...

May 15, 2016

Sex Gets Real 109: Teens, gender, & parenting

Masturbation May. Have you gotten yours on yet? If not, pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys and treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. Nadine Thornhill is someone I admire greatly. Not only was she part of...

May 8, 2016

Sex Gets Real 108: Horrible oral from a clueless husband

Masturbation May is in full swing, so pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys and treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. This week I’m chatting with Victoria Rosa, and we dive into her experiences with tantra ...

May 1, 2016

Sex Gets Real 107: No orgasms from partnered sex

Prescott is back with more amazing advice and t-shirt ideas Comedian and 4-Play Baltimore host, Prescott Gaylord, joins us for a second HIQI. Listener Dannyle wants to know how to talk to the guy she’s dating about the fact that she can’...

April 24, 2016

Sex Gets Real 106: Is a prostate massage cheating?

From BDSM to broken penises, from virgin stories to rope bondage. It’s a packed week. Dawn has some new client openings for sex and relationship coaching. Want to check it out? Pop over to her coaching page and jump on it ASAP. This week...

April 17, 2016

Sex Gets Real 105: A virgin and her vibrator

An intimate chat with Dawn Serra. Just because. Dawn woke up and just wanted to have a little chat with you, because you’re amazing. There’s also a follow-up from a listener who wrote in recently about sex with vibrators. Plus, a 20-year...

April 10, 2016

Sex Gets Real 104: Anal myths & sad quickies

Anal leakage and quickie sex. Hold on to your horses. Sarah and Brian from YaySex.ca join in the fun this week. Since they recently started teaching an anal sex class, we start off with a question about anal sex myths. A listener who wan...

April 3, 2016

Sex Gets Real 103: In love BEFORE the sex

What do you do if you’re in love before you have sex? Comedian and 4-Play Baltimore host, Prescott Gaylord, joins us for the first of two HIQIs. First, we hear from Sophie about college hook-ups and how she worked all her FWBs on campus....

March 27, 2016

Sex Gets Real 102: Vibrators and virgins

Dirty Lola in the house Dawn has two announcements: First up, there is a free webinar on March 28th all about intimacy in relationships as you explore non-monogamy and opening an existing relationship up. Register here! Second, Dawn is a...

March 20, 2016

Sex Gets Real 101: Grossed out by BJs

Dylan’s official last episode and we talk blowjobs. If you have any parting messages for Dylan, just use the email down below to send them to Dawn and she’ll pass them along. On this Hit It and Quit It, we heard from a listener about som...

March 6, 2016

Sex Gets Real 99: What if he’s terrible in bed?

CAN YOU TAKE THE PLEASURE?!?! It’s OK to change your mind, just like Dawn did at a recent BDSM class. A few listeners write in with stories and thanks. Plus, our listener Dirty Daughter has a very embarrassing story to share about how he...

February 28, 2016

Sex Gets Real 98: Should a virgin just do it?

New sex for us and sex for newbies. Dawn attended a BDSM conference for Valentine’s in Canada and tried several new things. Dylan scored a ton of presents. We have a backlog of listener emails, too. One listener wants to give his girlfri...

February 21, 2016

Sex Gets Real 97: Revealing clothes and help with a fantasy

That fits where? It all starts with an article about modesty and how women should expect to be treated poorly based on what they wear. You know Dawn can’t let that go. So, let’s put on our ranty pants and rage against the sexist notion t...

February 14, 2016

Sex Gets Real 96: The Womanizer and lesbian bed death

Unexpected orgasms and money for sex? Dawn got her hands on a new sex toy that’s a clitoral stimulator. She wants to give it a few more test drives, but offers her first impression. Then, we field listener questions on Bad Dragon dildos,...

February 7, 2016

Sex Gets Real 95: Practicing butt stuff

Butt stuff. It’s all about the butt. Over 3,500 people turned in for the Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com. Hundreds of reviews poured in and people loved it. If you want to check out the 30 interviews for yourself, you can st...

January 31, 2016

Sex Gets Real 94: Clown sex, porn, and shame

This is what happens when we have coffee and record first thing. Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn’s free 10-day online summit. It all starts January 28th, 2016, but if you see this after the ...

January 24, 2016

Sex Gets Real Episode 93: Gay coloring book & hand techniques

Gay coloring book and new hand sex techniques. Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn’s free 10-day online summit. It all starts January 28th, 2016, but if you see this after the event, you can sti...

January 17, 2016

Sex Gets Real 92: A wife blows up over a request for group sex

What do you do when you have that scary sex conversation and it blows up on you? Be sure to sign-up for the Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com. It’s free, and Dawn has 30 interviews for you to watch over the course of 10 days, ...

January 10, 2016

Sex Gets Real 91: Dawn’s HUGE announcement & trans bodies

Dawn has a huge announcement & trans stuff. Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn’s free 10-day online summit. She’s been slaving over it for 3 months, in secret, and you do NOT want to miss all o...

January 3, 2016

Sex Gets Real 90: New vibrator and getting caught giving a BJ

Happy New Year! It’s 2016! Well, Dylan is sick now, but we’re still recording because we missed you. Listeners write in about getting caught by their parents giving a blow job and getting picked up by lesbians at a conference. Dawn gets ...

December 27, 2015

Sex Gets Real: Holiday Special 2015

Quick erotica to tide us over Dawn just can’t take not recording, so to tide everyone over until the new year, she decided to read a little 3 minute erotica called “Pink” by Helena Black from Got a Minute? 60 Second Erotica. Our next epi...

December 13, 2015

Sex Gets Real 89: Butt sex and the REAL mess

Butts get real A listener wants us to be really real. Just how messy is anal play? She wants to try it, but she’s psyched herself out over the poop. That sends us off on a bender on all things butts – from hair to the doorbell technique ...

December 6, 2015

Sex Gets Real 88: Stoya rape & Bondage Bands

Straight guys having sexing with straight guys? We want to start the episode by saying that we stand in solidarity with Stoya after she named James Deen as her rapist. It takes tremendous courage to speak up, especially when the person y...

November 29, 2015

Sex Gets Real 87: STI stigma and poly feels

Sex. The scariest thing in the world? Dawn really loved this conversation about STI stigma. A recent article in The Atlantic (link below in the show notes) talked about some research findings that show people are terrified of sex. People...

November 22, 2015

Sex Gets Real 86: Self-sucking and vag superpowers for evil

Rhonda Rousey versus Dawn Serra. We’re finally back on track after losing some episodes a few weeks back. We revisit a listener email about self-sucking. Should he introduce his talent to his wife? The thought kind of turns him on. Then,...

November 15, 2015

Sex Gets Real 85: Paris attacks & trapped in a marriage

A kid on a bus does hand motions at Dawn that get her real worked up. Dawn & Dylan take a moment to talk about the Paris attacks, plus the lack of visibility on attacks in Beirut, Baghdad, and when the violence is against people of color...

November 8, 2015

Sex Gets Real 84: Hysterectomies & libido

Hysterectomies can impact sex, plus soapy blowjobs We have a full episode for you this week. From listener stories about fingering circles as a teenager to warnings against soapy blowjobs, our listeners are certainly adventurous. Plus, o...

November 1, 2015

Sex Gets Real 83: Newbie sex, swinger sex, & demo sex

Newbie sex, swinger sex, and demo sex. Dylan is back from Hawaii. Basically, it was really hot and there was boob sweat. Dawn attended Sex Down South where she saw a hand sex demo, did a masturbation circle, and generally had an amazing ...

October 25, 2015

Sex Gets Real 82: Consent & a special needs child

The accidental HIQI. Dawn had a shitty week. Not only was she battling Strep, but she fried her laptop and lost this week’s episode. So, we’re doing a HIQI in place of our longer episode and we’ll be back on track in 2 weeks. So, what ar...

October 18, 2015

Sex Gets Real 81: Sisters and sex

A new level of gross is reached on the show. So many listener stories and confessions – from a new gross word for spooge to a story about an orgy in high school, our listeners are adventurous to the max! And, one listener wants to know i...

October 11, 2015

Sex Gets Real 80: Amy Jo Goddard, Woman on Fire

Sex intelligence and erotic empowerment. Sex Down South is October 15-17th in Atlanta. Amy Jo Goddard will be one of the keynote speakers, and Dawn will be there. Join in the fun if you’re local. We are so excited to have Amy Jo Goddard ...

October 4, 2015

Sex Gets Real 79: A sub asks for help with her Dom

Sometimes you just have to ask. Listeners, if you’re in the DC area and you’re a sex educator of some sort, you HAVE to join Dawn at Tristan Taormino’s Sex Educator Bootcamp on October 18th. Our listeners get 25% off with code “deal25”. ...

September 27, 2015

Sex Gets Real 78: Women & porn, plus pink Viagra

Pegging, porn, and prostitution. A listener wrote in with a terrific message and mentioned pegging. Which sent us off on a bender about butt sex. Then, Dawn and Dylan talk about the new pink Viagra pill and why that name is so misleading...

September 20, 2015

Sex Gets Real 77: Pussies are beautiful and delicious

Georgia O’Keefe was on to something. Pussies are beautiful. Vulva are spectacular. And the problem is that too many vulva owners don’t realize this. After reading an article on the alarming demand for reconstructive surgery on labia, D...

September 13, 2015

Sex Gets Real 76: Disabilities and sex

If you live long enough, you’ll become part of the club. Robin Wilson-Beattie joins us this week to talk all about sex and disability. So often people with disabilities are seen as asexual, but that is so wrong. Robin shares her journey ...

September 6, 2015

Sex Gets Real 75: Water sports & sex positivity

What does sex positive mean to us? Dawn explores one of her super embarrassing fantasies. Sometimes taking the risk of sharing the scary stuff pays off. Oh Joy, Sex Toy recently did a comic on water sports, which gets us talk about peein...

August 30, 2015

Sex Gets Real 74: Sacred intimate (internal massage)

Camping, public nudity, face licking, and more. This episode is definitely a rainbow of all the things. We’ve got some listener emails talking about the Hitachi Magic Wand, face licking, and a really deep question about a spouse who clai...

August 23, 2015

Sex Gets Real 73: Small penis issues? We get called out.

A listener calls us out. Small penises…they’re the butt of many jokes, the catch in many commercials, and even featured on SNL as a reason to kill yourself. So, when a listener writes in to call us out that small penises really are that ...

August 16, 2015

Sex Gets Real 72: Feminista Jones

It’s about to get super fierce and very real. We are so excited to have the powerful, the fabulous, the game-changing Feminista Jones on with us this week. We talk about sex-positive feminism, BDSM, Dom/sub dynamics, how the term vanilla...

August 9, 2015

Sex Gets Real 71: Talking about sex with 4 year olds?

What happens when everyone learns about sex their whole lives? A listener writes back about their group sex situation. Dawn experiences a lovely display of empathy. Wouldn’t it be amazing if we were allowed to have bad days? Plus, the Ne...

August 2, 2015

Sex Gets Real 70: Erogenous zones & pegging famous guys

From famous men who have been pegged to erogenous zones and beyond, it’s a packed show. This week is packed full of good random stuff. We talk about a fun article pontificating which famous fictional men have been pegged. Then we explore...

July 26, 2015

Sex Gets Real 69: Mutual masturbation

Did someone say 69? Yes! It’s our 69th episode! Two listeners write in with sexy stories. Plus, there’s a new Johns Hopkins study showing men who are confident and empathetic (sensitive) have more satisfying sex. Boom! And of course, we ...

July 19, 2015

Sex Gets Real 68: Kate McCombs on sex and communication

Kate McCombs on all things sex and communication. We have the amazing Kate McCombs on the show today. Sex and communication are her bread and butter. She is incredibly skilled at helping people develop communication skills in their relat...

July 12, 2015

Sex Gets Real 67: Hitachi Magic Wand and swinging vs poly

A Hitachi Magic Wand story plus swinging vs. poly. Interested in attending Dawn’s live Q&A all about relationships on Thursday, July 16th? Pop on over and sign-up. She’d love to have some listeners in the audience. Dawn got herself a new...

June 28, 2015

Sex Gets Real 65: What would your sex super power be?

Sexual super powers. Go! Dylan is back. This makes us happy. So, a question came up about sexual super powers. Dawn and Dylan start imagining all the things you could do if you had a sex super power. What would yours be? In the DC area i...

June 21, 2015

Sex Gets Real 64: Gay Pride

Rainbows and bare ass and all things gay. It was gay pride in DC last weekend, so we hit the street and asked folks questions at the parade. From toes to scat play, strangers shared all kinds of stuff with us. Plus, a listener writes in ...

June 14, 2015

Sex Gets Real 63: Exhibitionism while you travel

Exhibitionism – Dawn’s giving it a go. On a recent trip to Vancouver, Dawn tried on being an exhibitionist – from the beach to her high rise condo in downtown, she gave that city a show. Dylan isn’t quite so brave, but who knows? Maybe a...

June 7, 2015

Sex Gets Real 62: Soggy waffles and Tinder

We learn what a soggy waffle is, discuss sex toy vending machines, and rage on Tinder. In the DC area? Then join Dawn’s new meetup: Relationship Communication Bootcamp. The first event is June 11th and you can sign-up now! Each month we’...

May 31, 2015

Sex Gets Real 61: Break-ups done wrong

All the ways NOT to break up with someone. If you’re in the DC area, join Dawn for her relationship communication bootcamp on June 11th. Check it out here. You can also subscribe to the meetup to get all announcements. See you there! A n...

May 24, 2015

Sex Gets Real 60: Ball stretching, monogamy, & pegging

From buying sex services to menstrual cups to drag kings and more, it’s a wild ride here at Sex Gets Real this week. In the DC area? Then join Dawn’s new meetup: Relationship Communication Bootcamp. The first event is June 11th and you c...

May 17, 2015

Sex Gets Real 59: Queer Porn Film Festival

Dawn’s mind gets blown in the best possible way. If you’re in the DC area, join Dawn for her relationship communication bootcamp on June 11th. Check it out here. The Queer Porn Film Festival was beyond rad. Films with trans women, trans ...

May 3, 2015

Sex Gets Real 57: Teen sex and changing how we teach it

Teens and sex – we can do better Dawn is excited by some of the developments in the sex toy store she is developing. If you want to get updates and behind the scenes news, or if you want to help make it awesome by participating in the cr...

April 26, 2015

Sex Gets Real 56: Vulva puppet, pubic hair, and Game of Thrones

Vulva puppet, hair down there, masturbation, and porn. First up, we are interviewing Cooper Beckett from Life on the Swingset, so if you have questions for him, get those to us by Thursday, April 30th. This episode is a collection of all...

April 19, 2015

Sex Gets Real 55: Dawn attends a play party

A sensuality workshop and play party? Dawn’s been busy. A few weeks ago, Dawn attended CatalystCon East. While the conference was amazing and deserves it’s own episode, that same weekend she also attended a pink puja (or a sensuality wor...

April 12, 2015

Sex Gets Real 54: Joan Price and senior sex

Sex as we age – there’s so much to learn! Joan Price is on the air with us today and she is amazing. We are talking about seniors (folks over 50) and sex. What changes in our 50s, 60, 70s, and beyond when it comes to sex? How does ageism...

April 5, 2015

Sex Gets Real 53: Lesbian sex positions

Favorite lesbian sex positions This episode is brought to you by Yes Please, More Please – the art of seduction through food. Don’t miss their Mexican Aphrodisiac dinner in Washington, DC on April 4, 2015. Scissoring? Mutual masturbation...

March 29, 2015

Sex Gets Real 52: Penis size, listener advice, and confessions

From penis size (again) to pinball machines, from jealousy to one-hit wonder orgasms – plus a special guest This episode is brought to you by Yes Please, More Please – the art of seduction through food. Don’t miss their Mexican Aphrodisi...

March 22, 2015

Sex Gets Real 51: Your penis size is fine, guys

When we look at Google data about sex, what does it tell us? This episode is brought to you by Yes Please, More Please – the art of seduction through food. Don’t miss their Mexican Aphrodisiac dinner in Washington, DC on April 4, 2015. W...

March 15, 2015

Sex Gets Real 50: Yoni egg failures and jealousy

It’s all about yoni eggs and jealousy and outdoor sex, to name a few. This episode is brought to you by Yes Please, More Please – the art of seduction through food. Don’t miss their Mexican Aphrodisiac dinner in Washington, DC on April 4...

March 8, 2015

Sex Gets Real 49: When he’s too big to fit

Guys, stop worrying about your dick being too small. You should be happy you aren’t too big! A listener has sweet, caring boyfriend. There’s only one problem – his dick is too big and she can’t take it all. How big is too big? And what c...

March 1, 2015

Sex Gets Real 48: SheBop’s sex educator, AJ

Sex toy education. It’s happening. Here at Sex Gets Real, we adore She Bop and we’ve talked about it many times on the podcast. She Bop is a female-friendly sex boutique that is full of body safe products, and they host a plethora of ama...

February 22, 2015

Sex Gets Real 47: Sex toy shopping horror story

Dylan tells a horrifying story of sex toy shopping gone wrong When Dylan’s friends go to a sex toy store to find a toy for pegging, things go south very quickly. What was supposed to be a fun and sexy bonding experience turned into a cre...

February 15, 2015

Sex Gets Real 46: A relationship therapist joins us

Gina Senarighi joins us for a compelling interview about relationship counseling and the keys to making relationships work in the long run Holy crap. We have the fabulous and amazing Gina Senarighi from Amplify Happiness Now and Uncommon...

February 8, 2015

Sex Gets Real 45: Virgins

Would you sleep with a virgin? And what does virgin even mean? But first, a celebration… Congratulations to Heavy B for winning our one-year anniversary giveaway! Dawn and Dylan will be personalizing a message to you and sending it over ...

February 1, 2015

Sex Gets Real 44: Best of our first year

ONE YEAR. BEST OF. BOOM. First, make sure you sign up for the Healthy, Authentic Relationship Summit that is on February 12th and 13th. It’s free and we have two days’ worth of experts weighing in on all things relationship. Dawn’s talk ...

January 25, 2015

Sex Gets Real 43: Naked gay men & loads of leather

We go back to Mid Atlantic Leather, talk disco muffs, and discover the Vagankle Dawn and Dylan are kicking off their one-year anniversary with a KICK-ASS giveaway. Check out the Sex Gets Real Facebook page to enter and for details or ent...

January 18, 2015

Sex Gets Real 42: BDSM classes, dildo etiquette, and porn trends

Dildo etiquette, cock confidence, and a sweepstakes to win a prize in celebration of our one-year anniversary! Dylan talks about being a total sexist at a motorcycle show. A listener wants to know where to go for classes on sex and BDSM....

January 11, 2015

Sex Gets Real 41: How Dawn and Dylan Met

We birthed a sex podcast. Here’s how it came to be. It all started with Dawn being a total stalker at a lesbian club… No seriously, it did. That’s just the beginning. And then of course, with a few glasses of champagne in her, Dylan goes...

January 4, 2015

Sex Gets Real 40: Fisting, pegging, NRE

On this week’s episode we’ve got NRE pitfalls, a couple seeks a third, fisting, and more Wow! Happy New Year to all of you. You sent us so many great stories and questions, we filled up an entire hour this week! It all starts with a list...

December 28, 2014

Sex Gets Real 39: Taste Test

It’s time for a taste test of sex products. It’s awful. That is all. We did it for you and we may die of sex poisoning because of it. Our favorites were the flavor waves condoms by ONE and the caramel body paint by Bijoux. As for the res...

December 21, 2014

Sex Gets Real 38: Asexuality spectrum and more confessions

Let’s explore the asexuality spectrum while talking about 69 and TinderNightmares Listener stories and emails galore. And we know, we know…some of you love 69. Since apparently we aren’t gifted in the same way some of you are, we hope yo...

December 14, 2014

Sex Gets Real 37: Dawn rants on bad sex advice

Stories about sex are awesome. Advice about sex that shames? Not so much. You know that we are all about everyone living their sexual lives in whatever way makes them happy. We celebrate all sorts of sexual orientations and sexual fantas...

December 7, 2014

Sex Gets Real 36: Sadism and consent

Pain, fear, consent, rape, and all things edgy. Not for the faint of heart. Ready for an edgy episode? Dawn and Dylan deliver with this practical and informative interview with BDSM educator and sadist Frozen Meursault. FM fields questio...

November 30, 2014

Sex Gets Real 35: Public sex brainstorming

Hmmm…now where can these kinky exhibitionists have sex? Dawn and Dylan help a listener come up with new places to engage in public sex with his wife. Also, Dawn discovers a phrase for man cum that turns her stomach. And what happens when...

November 23, 2014

Sex Gets Real 34: Erotica

An erotica expert on writing and reading sexy scenes Dawn and Dylan interview erotica writer, narrator, editor, and all-round expert Rose Caraway from The Kiss Me Quicks. You can check out her podcast on iTunes here. Rose answers some gr...

November 16, 2014

Sex Gets Real 33: Strap-on harness shopping

We never get sick of talking about strap-ons and pegging A listener wants to know what kind of harness his wife should get if he wants to get pegged. Plus, how can she get clit stimulation when she’s fucking him? Dawn’s favorite harness ...

November 9, 2014

Sex Gets Real 32: Listeners confess and bad kissing

Dawn is scarred, listeners fuss at us over 69ing, and a new vibrator is in the family A pro Domme weighs in on our advice about fetishes. A sassy listener says she adores 69 (and makes it clear she has a very lucky husband). And, what ha...

November 2, 2014

Sex Gets Real 31: Scarring TSA

With suitcases full of sex toys, we’re surprised they her back in On a recent trip to Toronto, Dawn packed most of her kinky arsenal – from dildos to a flogger, from a dragon tongue whip to her strap-on harness. Find out what happens whe...

October 26, 2014

Sex Gets Real 30: Group sex

Group sex and barbies. Just a normal day around Sex Gets Real headquarters. IPCookieMonster, blogger at SlutPhD.com, joins us in the studio for all things threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes. From tips for avoiding mediocre group sex to...

October 19, 2014

Sex Gets Real 29: Hashing

Ssshhhhhh. We’re talking secret identities and sex and a thing called hashing Hashing. Never heard of it? That’s probably because it’s a super secret drinking society for people with a running problem. Secret identities. Copious amounts ...

October 12, 2014

Sex Gets Real 28: Double BJs and double penetration

Double blow jobs, cheating accusations, and anal sex explorations A listener wants to know if she should make her fantasy of giving her boyfriend a double blow job with her best friend into reality. Dylan gets a new toy called the G Spot...

October 5, 2014

Sex Gets Real 27: Tantra and sacred sexuality

Sacred sexuality and tantra – yummy A listener wants to know how to get started with tantra, so Dawn and Dylan discuss Barbara Carrellas’ “Urban Tantra” which is a great introduction and inclusive look at tantra. Yes, you can do it if yo...

September 28, 2014

Sex Gets Real 26: 69 is the worst

We love listener questions and today is about feet and making love and new vibrators and more Who actually likes scissoring? A listener claims it’s worse than 69. But we wonder…is that even possible? A boyfriend just wants to massage his...

September 21, 2014

Sex Gets Real 25: Urethra and vajayjays and girl parts, oh my

It’s time to get personal with that clit and vulva and urethra Dylan and her wife break out the mirrors and flashlights to look at their vulvas, urethras, and more. Plus, how can you tell when someone is fully aroused just by looking at ...

September 14, 2014

Sex Gets Real 24: Safe sex, people. It’s a thing.

Swollen labia, unsafe sex, and “soaking” Dawn has a small issue crop up with her labia (did you know about the Bartholin gland?). Dylan fills us in on what “soaking” is. A listener wants to know the definition of sex. Plus, we see some v...

September 7, 2014

Sex Gets Real 23: Strippers in Vegas

Having fun with strippers – because they’re sassy and playful On the latest episode of Hit It and Quit It, Dylan wants to hear about Dawn’s experiences with strippers in Las Vegas. It’s about to get hot in here. But, Dawn isn’t the only ...

August 31, 2014

Sex Gets Real 22: Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit recap

Sex and conferences and sex and grooming failures and more sex To prepare for her lover coming into town, Dawn has an ass wax fail. Then, so much sex – female condoms, pegging, whipping, flogging, and more. Plus, Nina Hartley, Buck Angel...

August 24, 2014

Sex Gets Real 21: Threesomes and Jealousy

We love listeners who call us with awesome stories about sex! A listener gives us a juicy threesome confession. Dawn talks about threesomes and unexpected jealousy. Hey, it happens to the best of us! You know we love hearing from you, so...

August 17, 2014

Sex Gets Real 20: NRE junkies and butt stuff

Well, that’s one way to make an impression. Dawn’s got a pissy pussy, plus some serious ass pain. Find out about a guy who tried to smuggle an entire toolbox in his ass into a prison. Plus, listener questions on what’s the difference bet...

August 10, 2014

Sex Gets Real 19: K-Drama and kGoal

Today’s letter is ‘K’! Dylan marvels over “pet guys” from Korean soap operas. Basically, submissive men who are shamed by what they do. Plus, Dawn talks about a new pussy exerciser called kGoal. it’s like a Fit Bit for your girl parts. W...

August 3, 2014

Sex Gets Real 18: We go to a dungeon party

Dawn and Dylan go to a sex & play party in DC and spill the beans on everything that happened (hints: loads and loads of sex). A woman wants to know if texting an old boyfriend is cheating. Plus, what do you do if your girlfriends...

July 27, 2014

Sex Gets Real 17: Violet Wands

We’re buzzing with chatter about sex with electricity. Electricity in the bedroom? Dawn attends a Black Rose class on violet wands and using electricity in the bedroom. Dylan boycotts. Plus, what not to do with electricity and how to sca...

July 20, 2014

Sex Gets Real 16: Kait Scalisi on sex and illness

Have you ever thought about sex after a chronic illness? We hadn’t either. Kait Scalisi of Passion by Kait joins Dawn and Dylan to talk about sex when you or a loved one are dealing with chronic illness. Plus, self-care to feel sexy, lub...

July 13, 2014

Sex Gets Real 15: Fetishes and NRE

Fetish – we think that word is overused and explore it a little bit. Can New Relationship Energy be a fetish? What is a fetish, anyway? Plus, Dawn and Dylan talk about getting busted playing doctor as kids. Listen and subscribe to Sex Ge...

July 6, 2014

Sex Gets Real 14: Multiple lovers and facials

Open relationships are just the beginning of this wild episode Dawn and Dylan discuss whether a listener should tell her lovers about each other, dig into whether cum facials are degrading and how to get a girlfriend to be more open to t...

June 29, 2014

Sex Gets Real 13: Craigslist and Anal

Our first Hit It and Quit It, plus Dylan’s butt We’ve gone WEEKLY!!! In this short 15-minute episode, hear about Dawn’s craigslist experience that went from finding male models to watching two dudes fuck. Plus, Dylan gets a new butt plug...

June 22, 2014

Sex Gets Real 12: G spots, BJs, and Dominatrix stuff

Squirting and blow jobs and being a Domme. Because why not? Dawn and Dylan answer a listener question about obligatory blowjobs. Plus, hear about the g-spot and female ejaculation class Dawn attended in Portland, what it’s like to be a f...

June 8, 2014

Sex Gets Real 11: Horny highs

Dawn and Dylan share some new adventures in their own bedrooms, plus caning (ouch!) Have you ever had a horny high? Dawn discovers a new way to cum (anal!) while Dylan and her wife have a guest in the bedroom. Plus, Dawn’s review of a ca...

May 25, 2014

Sex Gets Real 10: Porn star Lance Hart joins us

Porn star Lance Hart – one of the best interviews we’ve ever done Dawn and Dylan talk to the gorgeous and talented Lance Hart, a fetish porn star and producer. He tells us all the dirty secrets behind filming porn, getting started in peg...

May 11, 2014

Sex Gets Real 9: Don’t go crazy when you break up, please

Ending things is never easy, but here’s what not to do Dawn and Dylan talk about closure and going crazy post break up. Plus, listeners ask how to overcome exhaustion, why does sex have to be so icky, and what to do if you get fat to pre...

April 27, 2014

Sex Gets Real 8: Rejection. Ouch.

Don’t get butthurt when someone tells you no. Do get excited to find some play partners. Dawn and Dylan dive into the sting of being rejected. Plus, how does a bi-curious woman find ladies to hook-up with? Is female ejaculation real? And...

April 13, 2014

Sex Gets Real 7: Giving amazing blowjobs

It’s all about the enthusiasm, people. Dawn and Dylan lay out how to give amazing blowjobs, the practicalities of navigating an open marriage (where? and how? and when?), and how to get started in kink. Plus, Dawn talks about her butt pl...

March 30, 2014

Sex Gets Real 6: Consent and responsible group sex

Consent is the foundation upon which ALL sex and kink are built. No shortcuts. Or you’re an asshole. Dawn and Dylan discuss what to do if you cross a line or violate someone’s consent. Also, tips on how to let go during sex and how to ha...

March 16, 2014

Sex Gets Real 5: Strap on a bib, Dylan is getting messy

You will never look at a glazed donut the same way again. Dawn and Dylan tackle the delicate art of how to eat pussy like a champ (hint: it involves a bib). Plus, barebacking in the gay community, cock rings, and the worst/best first dat...

March 2, 2014

Sex Gets Real 4: BDSM Conference

Classes on needles and pain processing and rape fantasies and negotiation…it was like heaven. Dawn and Dylan hit up the Dark Odyssey BDSM conference. Hear about all things kinky – from Fist-a-Palooza to orgies to rape play and so much mo...

February 16, 2014

Sex Gets Real 3: Strapping it on

How to have a bloody good time. And strap-on sex. Dawn and Dylan take on strap on sex, playing during your period, sex work, and whether a man watching porn without having sex with his partner is a major problem or not. Plus, we want you...

February 2, 2014

Sex Gets Real 2: Introducing Kink

Communication is the key to every kind of relationship. Get brave and ask. Find out how to talk to a friend in an open relationship about how she does it. What if you want to introduce kink to a super vanilla partner? Plus, the down-low ...

January 19, 2014

Sex Gets Real 1: Mid Atlantic Leather conference

It smells like man and cow, and it’s hot as hell. Dawn & Dylan hit the Mid Atlantic Leather conference in Washington, DC. Ready for a complete, and VERY kinky, run down of everything we saw? Let’s talk sadism, spanking, leather, dildos, ...